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The Worst Aspects in Synastry

Earlier, we discussed the best synastry aspects you can find in a astrology compatibility chart.

But what about the ‘bad’ ones? Which synastry aspects are considered detrimental to a relationship? Let’s discuss.

The worst synastry aspects

Sun square Mars, Sun opposite Mars

This aspect is tough to handle , especially those who do not like too much conflict or drama in their relationships. The Sun and Mars are both confrontational and driven planets. so a square aspects between them in synastry can lead to much frustration and ego clashes.

In this couple, competitiveness is taken to a new level. These two may see each other more as enemies rather than partners, and tend to irritate each other easily. At some point, the irritation and conflict may become too much, resulting in a huge blowout.

Moon square Mars, Moon opposite Mars

Hard aspects between one person’s Mars and another person’s Moon indicates petty arguments and hurt feelings. In this relationship, the couple know how to get under each other’s skin.

The Moon person may find the Mars person overly aggressive, rude, and hurtful, while the Mars person thinks the Moon person is overly sensitive and emotional. Indeed, the Moon person is very sensitive to any perceived meanness or aggression from the Mars person, and vice versa. There is a tendency to taking things “the wrong way” in this relationship. It is hard to discuss feelings without hurting each other.

Mars square Mars, Mars opposite Mars

This is another tough aspect. Mars is the planet of energy and action, so when it is in square aspect to another person’s Mars, frustrations and conflicts may feature strongly in the relationship. This couple is very competitive with each other, but not in a healthy way. These two easily irritate and annoy one another, which can make it hard to stay together in the long run.

This aspect also does not bode very well in the bedroom. It shows different likes and dislikes, and dissimilar rhythms and energies.

Sun square Saturn, Sun opposite Saturn

This aspect can be tough in a relationship. The Sun person feels stifled and restricted by the Saturn person, while the Saturn person may feel the Sun person is immature and impractical.

The Sun person may eventually feel they are treated like a child by the Saturn person. For the Saturn person, it can be hard not to criticize the Sun person, for they see the Sun person as childish and irresponsible. This relationship can have a negative effect on the Sun person’s self-esteem in the long run.

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Moon square Saturn, Moon opposite Saturn

The square between one person’s Moon and another person’s Saturn indicates emotional distancing and censoring. In this relationship, the Moon person does not feel safe and free to express their emotional needs. Instead, they feel afraid to express themselves to the Saturn person, out of fear the Saturn person will reject or disapprove of the Moon’s feelings.

The Saturn person feels the Moon person is overly sensitive and needy, while the Moon person finds the Saturn person cold and impersonal. In this relationship, the Saturn person probably feels awkward about emotional communication, so they discourage the Moon person from expressing themselves.

Venus square Saturn, Venus opposite Saturn

This is a classic indicator of relationship difficulties. In this relationship, the couple feels awkward expressing their love and affection to each other. This is because the Saturn person tends to discourage the Venus person from doing so. It can be very difficult to understand what each person feels in this relationship.

This aspect also indicates there could be barriers standing in the way of this couple formalizing a partnership. Sometimes differences in cultures, religions, social classes are indicated by this aspect.

Mars square Saturn, Mars opposite Saturn

This aspect is a tough one, and indicates much frustration and conflict in the relationship. The Mars person feels stifled and restricted by the Saturn person, and feel that nothing they do is ‘good enough’ for the Saturn person. Saturn wants to repress the Mars person’s energy and drive, for they find the Mars person very childish, impatient and impulsive.

The Saturn person may frequently get annoyed with the Mars person, while the Mars person finds the Saturn person to be a wet blanket. The Mars person feels they cannot express their assertive side without upsetting Saturn. This aspect can be a recipe for disaster, with both partners feeling frustrated with the other.

Sun square Uranus, Sun opposite Uranus 

Uranus is the planet of freedom and liberation, so when it is square another person’s Sun, it can cause relationship issues. This relationship may have begun very suddenly and unexpectedly.

The Uranus person is generally unreliable and unpredictable when it comes to fulfilling their obligations to the Sun person. In turn, the Sun person might not feel they can rely on the Uranus person in times of need. Something always seems to get in the way of their relationship, and the plans they make together often do not pan out. This relationship has a strong on-off quality, and it can be difficult for these two to settle into a committed partnership.

Venus square Neptune, Venus opposite Neptune

If you have this aspect natally, everyone around your age has their Neptune in square aspect to your Venus.

This aspect can be problematic because of the confusion and deception Neptune tends to bring to a relationship. The Venus person feels the Neptune person is their soulmate, and vice-versa, but there can be difficultly when it comes to committing to each other fully.

When issues arise in this relationship, this couple is likely to ignore conflict and sweet their troubles under the rug. Other may think the couple is not in touch with reality because of their refusal to see the relationship for what it is.

The Venus person (or the Neptune person) projects their ideals on their partner. There may be a tendency to overpromise and underdeliver in this relationship. They see their partner as someone other than who they really are, which can cause issues later one when the rose-colored glasses are removed.

Mars square Pluto, Mars opposite Pluto

At first, this relationship can be quite enthralling and exciting.  The sensual connection between you is off the charts! Over time, however, issues related to power, control, and anger may surface in the relationship.

Mars is the planet of energy and assertiveness. Mars shows our drive and ambition, and how we project our energies. Pluto, on the other hand, is the planet of transformation and power. In this relationship, when the Mars person asserts their will in the relationship, the Pluto person pushes back even harder. Pluto may resort to manipulative games in order to keep the Mars person ‘in line’, which angers the Mars person even more.

In this relationship, strong feelings are evoked on both sides. Each partner really knows how to push each other’s buttons and get under each other’s skin. At worst, this aspect can indicate physical conflict and violence.

 

What are your least favourite synastry aspects, and why? Comment below!

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The Sun in Synastry

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Sun in harmonious aspect (conjunction, sextile, trine) to another person’s Sun

This is a very helpful aspect in synastry. If your Sun is in harmonious aspect to another person’s Sun, it indicates mutual understanding of each other’s overall personality.

You don’t have to explain yourselves to one another; you just “get” each other.

Fire and Air signs are in harmonious aspects to one another, and Water and Earth signs are in positive aspect to one another. Air feeds fire, and Water and Earth are a fertile mix.

If your Suns are in the same element, your overall characteristics are very similar in important ways, making it easy to appreciate and understand each other’s needs.

On the downside, familiarity breeds contempt; your partner may exhibit qualities you like least about yourself, and vice-versa. This is especially applicable to the conjunction.

Nevertheless, this is a great aspect for friendship, as well as for a romantic relationship.

Sun opposite Sun:

Ever hear the phrase, “opposites attract”? This is an intriguing aspect. You have many differences, but at the same time, you balance each other out. Indeed, your personalities are complementary to one another. At the same time, there is a fundamental difference in your temperaments, which can lead to conflict. The Sun is a masculine planet, so beware of ego clashes!

Sun square Sun

If your Suns are square, it means they share the same modality (i.e. Geminis and Virgos are both mutable, Capricorns and Libras are both cardinal, etc..).  This means you handle life’s problems in a similar way. However, the square also indicates you differ in temperament and life goals, which can lead to conflict. This aspect indicates a lack of understanding of each other’s personalities. If you are both mutable, your changeable and adaptable natures may cause you to drift apart; if you are both Cardinal, you are both dynamic, action-oriented, which can give rise to competitiveness; If you are both Fixed, the both of you are stubborn, loyal, and attached, so it may be easy to feel “stuck” with each other.

Sun conjunct, sextile or trine the other person’s Moon

This is one of the strongest aspects two people can have in synastry. The Sun and Moon are the most important planets in our chart, so this aspect is extremely powerful and binding.

In the case of the conjunction, the two of you feel you were made for each other.  There is a strong feeling of comfort and support between the two partners. The Sun person feels supported and nurtured by the Moon person, while the Moon person feels more confident and powerful due to the Sun person. Together, they make a great team because they understand each other very well. They will naturally want to build a home and family together.  There is a feeling that you can rely on one another. This aspect is often found in the synastry charts of married couples.

The Sextile and Trine Aspects work very similarly to the conjunction, but the effect is less intense. There is an overall feeling of acceptance and understanding between them. They work well together and it feels natural to be together.

Sun opposite Moon

This is a binding aspect to be found between lovers. With this aspect, a mutual attraction is present. However, the Moon person may find the Sun person insensitive and overbearing, while the Sun person may find the Moon person overly dependent and overly sensitive. The Moon person may feel the Sun person stomps all over their feelings, and the Sun person may not even be aware of this! Regardless, oppositions in synastry are complementary.

Sun square Moon

This aspect is more problematic than the opposition. The Moon person may find the Sun person overly rational, dictatorial, and selfish, while the Sun person may find the Moon person overly sensitive and emotional. Attraction to one another is present, but it is not without tension and competitiveness. They find it hard to support one another, because there is a basic misunderstanding over what each person needs.

Sun conjunct, sextile, or trine Mercury

Mercury synastry aspects are undervalued in astrology, in my opinion. What kind of relationship can you have, if you can’t even talk to one anothe?  In harmonious aspect, Sun-Mercury aspects indicates healthy communication between partners. They like to speak to one another, and have similar intellectual interests. This isn’t an indicator of a wild, passionate romance, but having good communication with your mate is one of the most important aspects of a successful relationships.

Sun opposite Mercury

This aspect indicates a difference of opinions and perspectives on intellectual issues. This aspect indicates lively mental exchanges and interesting conversations. This couple may engage in many lively debates, and can learn a lot from each other.

Sun square Mercury

With this aspect, there comes a tendency to criticize each other’s viewpoints. The Sun person may feel sensitive to Mercury’s criticism, and Mercury may find the Sun person defensive. It’s hard to “get” what the other is saying with this aspect. With a little patience and understanding, you can learn a lot from one another.

Sun conjunct, sextile, or trine the other person’s Venus

This is a very positive aspect to find in synastry. The Venus finds the Sun person attractive, and the Sun person feels loved and adored around the Venus person. Indeed, being around the Venus person gives the Sun person an ego boost! The Venus person instinctively knows how to love the Sun person. This isn’t an indicator of sexual attraction, but rather one of pure love and affection. This is a wonderful aspect to find in friendships, as well.

Sun opposite Venus

This aspect is commonly found in long-term relationships. With this aspect, you like spending time with each other and socializing together. This aspect indicates a deep friendship based on mutual interests. However, the Venus person might feel underappreciated in her efforts to please the Sun person, while the Sun person may find the Venus person superficial and self-indulgent.

Sun square Venus

This aspect definitely produces mutual attraction, but can cause problems in terms of understanding each other’s values. The Venus person may feel the Sun person doesn’t appreciate her efforts to please him, and the Sun person may find the Venus person superficial. This aspect can indicate a real lack of caring and consideration for one another, especially on the part of the Venus person.

 

Sun conjunct, sextile, or trine Mars

This is a great aspect, as it indicates sexual attraction to one another, especially on the part of the Mars person. You energize one another, and respect each other’s individuality. This aspect also indicates a healthy competitiveness between the two of you.

Sun opposite Mars

This is an indicator of strong sexual attraction! Hot, hot, hot! Since Sun and Mars are both masculine planets, it can cause ego clashes, as well. You may try to dominate the other because of this. This aspect is an indicator of conflict and power struggles.

Sun square Mars

This aspect often produces conflict, and even violence, but is an indicator of attraction at the same time. Competitiveness and ego clashes characterize this aspect. You are likely to react to each other in an impulsive manner. It’s likely that you rub each other the wrong way, and know how to get under each other’s skin. You always feel the need to explain your actions to one another, which can be quite draining.

Sun conjunct, sextile or trine Jupiter

This aspect injects your relationship with enthusiasm, optimism, and trust. The Jupiter fosters the Sun person’s self-confidence. Jupiter is generous and trusting towards the Sun person, and the Sun person vitalizes the Jupiter person. You two make wonderful travel companions. You desire to make each other happy, and this will last throughout your relationship.

Sun opposite or square Jupiter

While this aspect indicates mutual generosity and trust, you may tend to overindulge the other. You have a strong desire to make each other happy, but may tend to expect too much from the partnership, which can lead to disappointment. Jupiter has the natural ability to lift up the Sun person’s spirits. Beware of the danger of overspending with one another.

Sun conjunct Saturn

This is a binding connection. The Saturn person stabilizes the Sun person, and the couple truly feels they can depend on one another. You take responsibilities to one another seriously, which is conducive to any successful long-term relationship. However, the Saturn person may be somewhat of a wet blanket to the Sun person. This is because the Sun person brings out the Saturn’s person’s insecurities. Fearing the Sun person’s withdrawal of interest, the Saturn person may criticize and judge the Sun person. Due to this criticism, the Sun person’s self-confidence and enthusiasm may decrease. It is easy for the couple to feel stifled and restricted by the relationship.

Sun sextile or trine Saturn

This is a very helpful aspect in synastry. Saturn feels dedicated and responsible towards the Sun person, and the Sun is supportive of the Saturn person. This aspect indicates the two of you desire to build a lasting relationship together, full of commitment and dedication. In a marriage, you will be dedicated and helpful to one another.

Sun opposite or square Saturn

This is a very difficult aspect to find in synastry, yet it is commonly found in the synastry charts of married couples! Like the conjunction, this aspect indicates the tendency for the Saturn to criticize and nag the Sun person. The Sun person feels blocked and discouraged by the Saturn person. It is as if whatever the Sun person does, it is not good enough for the Saturn person. Still, the feeling of responsibility and duty to one another is present.

Sun conjunct Uranus

 

This is an electrifying, though unstable aspect. The Sun person finds the Uranus person exciting and unique, yet at the same time unstable and non-committal. This relationship is bound to be spontaneous, but the ability to truly count on one another is tarnished with this aspect. You may have met each other suddenly, and fallen for each other instantly, but maintaining this level of excitement may be the key to making this relationship work. The Uranus person is likely to feel trapped by the Sun person when the relationship gets too routine and stable.

Sun sextile or trine Uranus

 

This is a positive aspect to find in a synastry chart. You encourage each other’s freedom and independence. Electricity and spontaneity characterize this relationship, but not in an upsetting way like in the case of the conjunction, opposition, or square. This relationship is not suffocating, but not radically unstable, either. A strong attraction to each other is present, especially on the part of the Sun person.

Sun square or opposite Uranus

This is an unstable aspect, and is not conducive to long-term relationships. The relationship most likely started quickly, full of excitement and mutual attraction. However, over time, the Uranus person is likely to feel stifled or “trapped” by the Sun person, and the Sun person is likely to find the Uranus person unpredictable and unstable. The couple may be separated at key moments, and may not be able to truly rely on one another in the long-term.

Sun conjunct Neptune

This is a tricky aspect. While this aspect indicates a strong spiritual connection, it can also lead to deception and dishonesty. The Sun person is likely to see the Neptune person as a soul mate, but this idea may not be based on reality. The Sun person may love the Neptune person for who he thinks she is, rather than who she actually is. Neptune may play along in order to appease the Sun person. This aspect can also indicate a ‘victim-savior’ relationship, in which one depends strongly on the other for support and guidance.

Sun sextile or trine Neptune

This aspect indicates the couple shares a romantic, spiritual bond. You easily forgive each other, and are conscious of each other’s needs. Love easily flows between the two of you. There is a feeling that you have found your soul mate, as you are attuned to each other’s feelings.

Sun square or opposite Neptune

This aspect can indicate delusion and deception. The Sun person may believe he has found his soul mate in the Neptune person, and the Neptune person may play into this role in order to please the Sun person. The Neptune may end up promising more than they can deliver, which can eventually lead to disappointment on the part of the Sun person. Misunderstandings are likely when Neptune is involved in synastry. It is important that you are clear with one another about what you expect out of the relationship.

Sun conjunct Pluto

Pluto is the planet of “no Bullshit”, so there is nothing superficial about this union! Like a moth to a flame, the Sun person is drawn to the Pluto person. The Sun person is likely to be mesmerized and fascinated to the Pluto.  The Pluto usually has the upper hand in the relationship, as the Sun person is enthralled, and even obsessed, with the Pluto person. The Sun person stimulates Pluto’s jealousy and possessiveness. The fear of losing one another is present, as is the desire to know each other’s deepest secrets. This is an indicator of a deep attraction and a powerful sexual connection.

Sun sextile or trine Pluto

This aspect indicates mutual fascination, and the desire to delve into the depths of each other’s minds. This aspect is a lot like the conjunction, except it is less dramatic.

Sun opposite or square Pluto

The two of you have a profound, transformative effect on each other. You experience emotions you never even knew you had as a result of this relationship. This is an indicator of a love-hate relationship. This relationship is characterized by power struggles, as the two of you wish to dominate the other. You are compelled to find out every detail about each other’s lives, and this desire often leads to unhealthy obsession and possessiveness. If you two break up, it will be very difficult to remain friends.

 

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Sun-Mars Aspects in Synastry

 

 

Sun conjunct, sextile, or trine Mars

This is a great aspect, as it indicates sexual attraction to one another, especially on the part of the Mars person. You energize one another, and respect each other’s individuality. This aspect also indicates a healthy competitiveness between the two of you.

I had the conjunction aspect with my ex boyfriend, and my attraction to him was through the roof! He absolutely loved by body, and I loved his.

Our bodies matched well, and the sex was out of this world. The conjunction was in Aquarius, so we would get competitive when it came to intellectual debates, but it wasn’t overly combative at all.

 

 

Sun opposite Mars

This is an indicator of strong sexual attraction! Hot, hot, hot! Since Sun and Mars are both masculine planets, it can cause ego clashes, as well.

You may try to dominate the other because of this. This aspect is also an indicator of conflict and power struggles.

Sun square Mars

This aspect often produces conflict, and even violence, but is an indicator of attraction at the same time. Competitiveness and ego clashes characterize this aspect.

You are likely to react to each other in an impulsive manner. It’s likely that you rub each other the wrong way, and know how to get under each other’s skin. You always feel the need to explain your actions to one another, which can be quite draining.