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Marriage indicators in the Composite Chart

The composite chart is an extremely insightful tool in astrology compatibility analysis. However, it can be difficult to determine the marriage potential of a relationship when you do not know what to look for!

I’ve studied many composite charts of married couples and have noticed some patterns I’d like to share with you.

Keep in mind: One aspect or placement will not determine whether or not you will marry someone; the full Composite chart must be analyzed. 

 

 

Stelliums

Having 3 or more planets conjunct in your composite chart is very powerful. The most powerful are conjunctions involving the composite Sun, Moon, Venus, Mercury and Mars.

The stellium is even more powerful when it is aspected by outer planets. I favor easy aspects from Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto to the composite stellium, but I see hard aspects just as often in the composite charts of married couples.

With hard aspects, the couple will face more challenges in their relationship, but the relationship can still be long lasting and committed.

Do you need a stellium in a composite chart for marriage? No; I’d say stelliums are ideal, but I’ve seen plenty of composite charts of married couples with more ‘spaced out’ planets (though, they usually have at least a couple of conjunctions). Other placements and aspects can certainly indicate marriage, as described below.

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Ruler of the 7th house

The ruler of the seventh house is a very important planet to analyze in the composite chart. The seventh house represents formalized commitment, and gives clues in regards to the longevity of a relationship.

To determine your Composite 7th house ruler, check out the chart below:

  • If your Composite 1st house is in Aries, the 7th house ruler is Venus
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Taurus, the 7th house ruler is Pluto
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Gemini, the 7th house ruler is Jupiter
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Cancer, the 7th house ruler is Saturn
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Leo, the 7th house ruler is Uranus
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Virgo, the 7th house ruler is Neptune 
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Libra, the 7th house ruler is Mars
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Scorpio, the 7th house ruler is Venus
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Sagittarius, the 7th house ruler is Mercury
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Capricorn, the 7th house ruler is the Moon
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Aquarius, the 7th house ruler is the Sun
  • If your Composite 1st house is in Pisces, the 7th house ruler is Mercury

A well-aspected seventh house ruler can indicate a relationship in which both partners are very committed to the relationship.

Here are some aspects I’ve commonly seen in the charts of married couples:

  • Ruler of composite 7th house conjunct, sextile or trine the ruler of the composite 1st house
  • Ruler of composite 7th house conjunct, sextile or trine composite Juno
  • Ruler of composite 7th house conjunct, sextile or trine composite planets (especially Sun, Moon, Venus, Jupiter and Saturn)
  • Ruler of composite 7th house conjunct the composite Angles (AC, DC, MC, IC)
  • Ruler of composite 7th house conjunct composite Vertex
  • Ruler of the composite 7th house conjunct composite North or south node
  • Ruler of the composite 7th house in Libra

Do you need a well-aspected 7th house ruler for marriage? In my opinion, YES! The 7th house ruler represents your love and commitment towards each other. The Composite 7th house ruler in square aspect to Saturn, for example, can indicate difficulty formalizing your commitment. A square from Composite Uranus to the Composite 7th house ruler can indicate an on-off, unpredictable relationship. A trine from Composite Saturn, on the other hand, can indicate longevity in the relationship, as well as formalized commitment (if the rest of the chart agrees).

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5th and 7th house planets

The 5th house represents love, romance, dating, and creativity, so Composite planets in this house (especially Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars and Jupiter) indicates a fun and dynamic relationship. There may be a strong desire to have children together, as well. Be sure to analyze the ruler of the Composite 5th house to determine whether babies are in the cards for you and your partner!

The 7th house represents commitment and partnership, so Composite planets in this house (especially Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, and Saturn) can indicate a powerful connection. In this relationship, the couple feels like a ‘team’, and enjoy being around each other.

5th house and 7th house placements alone do not guarantee marriage, but they are nice additions and can increase the attraction and feeling of unity between the couple. 

Libra Planets

Some of the longest lasting relationships I’ve seen have Composite inner planets in the sign of Libra. 

Libra is the sign of love and partnership, as well as fairness, cooperation and harmony. When a couple has their composite Inner plants in Libra, they are natural partners for each other and find it easy to commit to one another. Being together just feels ‘right’.

I personally know 3 couples with challenging Composite charts, but they come across as the perfect couples and have stayed together for many years. What they all have in common is Composite stelliums in Libra (and their 7th house rulers were well aspected).

Placements to look out for:

  • Composite Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars and/or North Node in Libra
  • Composite Ascendant in Libra
  • Ruler of Composite 1st house in Libra
  • Ruler of Composite 7th house in Libra
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Vertex

The Vertex is often referred to as the ‘point of Fate,’ so it is usually powerfully placed in the charts of married couples. It points to couples who are ‘meant to be’. 

Common composite Vertex aspects in the charts of married couples:

  • Composite Vertex conjunct Descendant
  • Composite Vertex in the seventh house (especially if conjunct or opposite a Composite planet)
  • Composite Vertex conjunct the ruler of the Composite house 1, 4, 5, or 7
  • Composite Vertex conjunct or opposite North Node
  • Composite Vertex conjunct Composite Juno, especially if in the 7th house

Composite to natal chart comparison

Comparing each persons natal chart to the Composite chart is a valuable tool in relationship analysis. It is important that both partners have strong inter-aspects with the Composite Chart to ensure mutual commitment. 

Here are a few examples of Composite-to-natal aspects you should look out for:

  • Composite Chart planets conjunct natal angles 
  • Composite Chart angles conjunct natal planets
  • Composite Chart North Node conjunct or opposite natal planets and angles (and vice versa)
  • Composite Chart Vertex conjunct or opposite natal planets and angles (and vice versa)
  • Conjunctions and oppositions between natal planets and Composite planets
  • House overlays to 1st, 4th, 5th, 7th, and 8th houses (Composite planets in Natal houses, and Natal planets in Composite houses)

 

This is not an exhaustive list, and I will continue to add to it as I discover more important aspects and placements. 

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Pluto synastry: who is more obsessed?

Pluto is an incredibly powerful planet, and when it is strongly aspected in synastry, you can feel it!

Pluto is the planet of death, rebirth, deep transformation and psychology. In synastry, it brings an intense and powerful energy to the planet it touches in another person’s chart. We often see it manifest as obsession, fascination, jealousy, intense love & hatred, repulsion, possessiveness, and death/rebirth.

The angle Pluto makes in synastry is very important. Hard aspects, like the conjunction, square and opposition, can bring out the more destructive and toxic traits of Pluto than the sextile or trine, which tend to be powerful in a positive way.

Who is more obsessed in Pluto synastry?

I have mostly been the planet person in previous relationships. It can be difficult to isolate one single aspect’s energy, but I always recognize that Plutonian feeling when it shows up in strong synastry with someone.

There are many factors that go into determining who is more obsessed, such as looking into how each person’s Pluto is aspected in their birth charts, their individual transits, and so on. This can make it very difficult to tell exactly who is more obsessed with who. 

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In my two last long term relationships, I was the Venus person in a Pluto square Venus configuration. I was undergoing major Pluto transits at the time we got together. I truly felt I was the more obsessed one at first. I felt helpless; I was totally entranced by him and could not escape his hold.

My Pluto partner seemed to always be in control, and was very jealous and possessive over me. I felt he felt very entitled to my love, and would be angry, vengeful or passive aggressive if he didn’t get it.

In synastry, the planet person feels the energy of their planet intensified and transformed when they are with the Pluto person. Yes, there is intensity, fascination and obsessiveness here. It is as though the planet person is going through a Pluto transit when they are with the Pluto person. 

What about the Pluto person? In my opinion (and experience), the Pluto person is more obsessed, but depending on the type of aspect Pluto makes, and how the person handles their own Pluto, this obsession can be very destructive.

To be clear: this does not mean that the Pluto person is more “in love” than the planet person, but rather feels a great need to control and transform the planet person. 

My ex is a Scorpio with Venus conjunct Pluto in Libra. His Venus/Pluto is exactly square my Venus. He’s a very Scorpionic person, and channeled that energy towards my Venus. He was constantly testing my loyalty and his jealousy and mistrust were ultimately what drove us apart.

My other Venus square Pluto in synastry ex is an Aquarius with Venus square his Pluto and Saturn. His obsessiveness was more understated due to Saturn’s influence. Instead of directly showing his obsession, he would stalk me, showing up at places he knew I’d be.

Pluto is obsessed with controlling and transforming the planet person, which can lead to power struggles when the planet person asserts their independence. In some ways, the planet person may feel like ‘prey’ to the Pluto person. The Pluto person is usually considered the partner with the “upper hand” in these relationships, and is usually more ‘in your face’ with showing their obsessiveness.

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The planet person awakens the Pluto person’s controlling and obsessive side, while the planet person can feel very drawn towards the Pluto person’s depth and intensity, like a moth to a flame. Both parties can feel very out of control when they are with each other, and may even find they bring the worst out of one another, particularly with the hard aspects.

Love-hate themes are common in synastry featuring strong Pluto aspects, and I find they exist more strongly in the Pluto person. I have found that the Pluto person can become vengeful or manipulative when they feel they are losing control over the planet person, but this energy can definitely go both ways. Depending on the condition of the planet person’s Pluto, they can also become quite vengeful and manipulative. 

 

Have you had strong Pluto contacts in synastry? Were you the planet person or the Pluto person? Who do you think was more obsessed?

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Descendant Synastry

We often talk about aspects to the Ascendant, but what about the Descendant?

The Ascendant and Descendant are opposing angles: the Ascendant represents our physical self and persona, while the Descendant represents our close, intimate relationships. The Descendant has to do with the type of partners we attract, and who we are most attracted to.

When someone’s planet is conjunct your Descendant, you feel you have met your match. Depending on the planet (and the aspects it makes to other planets and angles in your chart), this person might even be your ideal partner! Your partner is equally attracted to you, and sees you as their ‘other half’.

Conjunctions to the Descendant can be read similarly to a 7th house overlay, but they are more powerful. Also, the conjunction can also occur when one person’s planet is in another person’s 6th house, near the cusp of the 7th house.

In this article, we go over synastry interpretations of planets conjunct the Descendant (or opposite the Ascendant)

Sun conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Sun opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

Sun conjunct Descendant in syanstry is one of the most powerful aspects you can find in a synastry. This aspect indicates a strong level of attraction and compatibility.

The Descendant person feels the Sun person is their ideal match, and feels magnetically attracted to them. Indeed, the Sun person’s overall personality is very appealing to the Descendant person, as it is a mirror to their own personality.  This aspect is very binding, particularly for the Descendant person, as the Sun person makes them feel more balanced and complete.

The Sun person also feels very attracted to the Descendant person, not only for their physical appearance, but also for how natural it feels to be together. The two of them feel they have found their ‘other half’ in each other, and feel a strong desire to be around each other often.

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Moon conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Moon opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

Moon conjunct Descendant in Synastry is another powerful, binding aspect, and is commonly seen in the charts of married couples.

This aspect indicates compatibility at the emotional level. The Descendant person has a strong emotional attachment to the Moon person, and may even become dependent on them for emotional support and nurturing. The Moon person is sensitive to the Descendant person’s moods, and provides support and understanding in the relationship.

The Descendant person loves being around the Moon person, and feels a natural inclination to partner with them. The Moon person also feels a strong desire to partner with the Descendant person, feeling as though they have found their other half.

The Descendant person feels safe and comforted when they are with the Moon person, as the Moon person creates a safe space for the Descendant person to express themselves.

I’ve found that Moon in the 7th house couples have a very special emotional bond which can be noticed by others around them.

Mercury conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Mercury opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

Mercury conjunct Descendant in Synastry indicates a high level of intellectual compatibility and attraction. The Mercury person is a perfect sounding board for the Descendant person; the Mercury person shows the Descendant person might even play Devil’s Advocate to show the Descendant person another perspective.

The Descendant person loves the way the Mercury person speaks and expresses themselves. There is a high level of intellectual compatibility between these two.

Both parties learn a lot about compromise and harmony through this relationship. They are open to each other’s ideas and respect each other’s intellects. Each partner feel ‘heard’ in this relationship, and talk through their issues in a fair and balanced way.

Venus conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Venus opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

Venus conjunct Descendant in Synastry is an incredibly powerful aspect to find in a relationship chart. This aspect indicates much attraction between the two partners, and this is one of the best synastry aspects for long term love and marriage.

The Venus person is ideal to the Descendant person; the Descendant person loves the Venus person’s style, beauty, and the way they express love and affection. Indeed, the Descendant person might idealize the Venus person greatly, and see them as the ‘perfect partner’.

Through the relationship with the Venus person, the Descendant person learns a lot about relationships, relating, equality and harmony.

The Venus person is also highly attracted to the Descendant person. They love the way the Descendant person looks, and how they relate to others. They enjoy socializing with the Descendant person, and complement each other socially.

To others, they come across as the perfect couple.

Mars conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Mars opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

This aspect indicates a high level of attraction between the partners. The Descendant person is drawn to the Mars person, and falls in love with their sexual energy and drive. The Mars person is also very sexually attracted to the Descendant person, and will want to pursue the Descendant person.

At the same time, this aspect can be somewhat problematic when it comes to disagreements. The Mars person can be quite dominating or argumentative, especially when it comes to relationship matters. In this relationship, it is important to work together to come up with solutions, rather than treat each other as enemies.

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Jupiter conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Jupiter opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

This aspect is a wonderful aspect to share in Synastry! Jupiter conjunct Descendant in synastry blends one person’s planet of expansion and joy with another person’s relationship area.

The Descendant person feels much joy from being with the Jupiter person, as the Jupiter person brings joy, positivity and expansion to the Descendant person’s life. This placement can definitely signify marriage if other aspects are supportive.

In this relationship, the Jupiter person’s honesty and open-mindedness are highly attractive to the Descendant person. The two of them may enjoy traveling or going on adventures together.

Saturn conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Saturn opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

Saturn conjunct Descendant in synastry can be both positive and negative. Check the other aspects Saturn to determine how this aspect will play out in the relationship.

On the positive side, the Saturn person teaches the Descendant person how to be more responsible and mature when it comes to long-term commitment. In many cases, this aspect is indicative of marriage, as it increases the longevity of the connection, as well as the commitment and duty they feel to one another.

On the downside, the Descendant person may feel their Saturn partner is too stuffy or cold, or even parental, towards them. To the Descendant person, the relationship may feel heavy or burdensome in some way, especially if the Descendant person is a non-traditional type.

The Saturn person may be resistant or cause delays in romance between the couple due to insecurity, or due to external obstacles.

Uranus conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Uranus opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

Uranus conjunct Descendant in synastry indicates instant attraction between the partners. The Descendant person in particular finds the Uranus person highly attractive, exciting, and different than anyone they have met before.

Despite the high level of attraction between them, the relationship may be unsteady or unpredictable, given the erratic nature of Uranus. Over time, the Descendant person might not feel they can rely or depend on the Uranus person in times of need. It may be difficult to get the Uranus person to make a steady commitment to the Descendant person. On the good side, the Uranus person teaches the Descendant person to be more independent and detached in relationships.

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Neptune conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Neptune opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

This aspect indicates a dream-like connection between the partners. In this relationship, both partners, particularly the Descendant person, feel they have met their ideal match our soulmate in each other. The Neptune person brings a dreamy, compassionate, sensitive energy into the Descendant person’s relationships sector that feels both fantasy-like and confusing.

Due to the hazy nature of Neptune, there may be difficultly in defining the relationship or where the relationship is going. The Neptune person can be vague or indirect when it comes to relationship matters, which can be quite frustrating for the Descendant person. If both partners are clear and honest with each other, this beautiful relationship could last a lifetime.

Pluto conjunct Descendant in Synastry (or Pluto opposite Ascendant in Synastry)

This aspect indicates a strong attraction between the partners. In fact, they may even be obsessed with each other! The Pluto person completely transforms the way the Descendant person looks at relationships.

At the same time, jealousy, obsession and possessiveness may feature strongly in this relationship. There may be a strong ‘can’t live with you, can’t live without you’ energy between them. The couple may experience many power struggles when it comes to relationship matters. The Pluto person, in particular, might be very forceful or controlling over the relationship, which could cause resentment and frustrations on behalf of the Descendant person.

If these two can learn to work together, the intense bond they share could a lifetime.

North Node conjunct Descendant (i.e. South Node conjunct Ascendant)

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North Node conjunct Ascendant (i.e. South Node conjunct Descendant)

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Vertex conjunct Descendant in Synastry

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Uranus opposite Pluto Transit

A Uranus opposite Pluto transit brings about sudden and unexpected events that change your life.

These transits can be quite challenging, especially if you are someone who is not fond of change. For example, those with many planets in fixed signs (Taurus, Scorpio, Aquarius, Leo) might be more resistant to change than a mutable sign (Sagittarius, Pisces, Virgo, Gemini).

Pluto is the planet of transformation, rebirth, and power. Its natal house placement shows the area where you have issues surrounding power, control, and even obsession and jealousy (from yourself and from others). This applies to work (especially authority figures, or people in ‘control’), as well as relationships.

When transiting Uranus makes an opposition to your natal Pluto, an deep, and often shocking, transformation occurs.

At the beginning of this transit, you begin feeling a sense of powerlessness in your life, and sudden events force you to reevaluate your current situation.

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During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, you want to make a big change to your life and break free of toxic situations or relationships. You might even become very anxious to escape the situation, leading to rash decisions.

There is no doubt a big transformation is about to occur in your life. To determine how the transit will affect you, check which house Pluto is located in your chart. This is the area that will receive the radical change.

Timeline of a Uranus-Pluto transit

Uranus transits make 3 passes over the planet it is transiting: the first direct contact with the planet, followed by a retrograde contact, and ends with a final direct contact. Uranus transits tend to trigger events when the aspect is exact (within 10 minutes).

The first pass of the transit is an introduction to the energy of the transit; it gives you a taste of what is going to happen as the rest of the transit unfolds. In the case of a Uranus transit, there may be a feeling of uneasiness or anxiety around a certain situation. An event, or series of events, trigger a desire for major change. The actual change might not occur during the first pass of the transit, as it is still early and you are getting used to the energy.

The retrograde pass is the most powerful, in my experience, as it is usually when the Big Change happens. Everything that has been bubbling up under the surface suddenly explodes during a retrograde hit of a Uranus transit. Sweeping changes usually take place at this time.

Finally, the final direct hit of a transit feels much more comfortable. By then, we are used to the energy of the transit, and can use it more constructively. 

You should also check if you have any Pluto transits going on at the time. The transit from Uranus to your natal Pluto will trigger events related to your Pluto transit. For example, if you are currently going through a Pluto conjunct Venus transit at the same time, the hits from Uranus to Pluto will trigger events related to your Pluto conjunct Venus transit. 

My experience with a Uranus opposite Pluto transit

I had a Uranus opposite Pluto transit several years ago. My natal Pluto is in my 10th house, so transit Uranus was opposing from the 4th house. I was having major power struggles with my toxic boss. Having my natal Pluto in the 10th house gives me problems with authority and ‘bosses’ as it is, so having someone so manipulative and controlling was driving me crazy.

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Once Uranus went retrograde, my desire to quit my job was getting stronger. I applied for many jobs, and ended up getting an offer when transiting Uranus was retrograde right on my Pluto. Pluto was also transiting conjunct my natal Venus in the second house, which reflected the healthy raise I got from my new role.

Overall, a Uranus opposite Pluto transit being deep and lasting change to your life. This is the time to escape toxic situations who are holding you back. Sudden and unexpected changes occur at this time, but do not be afraid: this deep transformation is overdue, and will  put you on the right track.

How will a Uranus-Pluto transit affect you?

If Pluto is in 1st house, or rules your 1st house: The Uranus opposite Pluto transit brings major changes to your physical appearance are expected at this time. A complete transformation of your physical being, your persona, and how you present yourself to the world. 

If Pluto is in your 2nd house, or rules your 2nd house: The Uranus opposite Pluto transit brings unexpected changes to your finances. A complete transformation in regards to how you make and handle money. Transformation in regards to your attitude towards material possessions.

If Pluto is in your 3rd house, or rules your 3rd house: The Uranus opposite Pluto transit brings deep transformation in the area of communication, transportation, siblings, neighbours, and education. There may be a sudden event that completely transforms your relationship to 3rd house issues. Toxic relationships with siblings and neighbours will undergo major transformations during this time.

If Pluto is in your 4th house, or rules your 4th house: The Uranus opposite Pluto transit brings sudden and unexpected events regarding the home and family. Perhaps you will have to move during this time, or a sudden family-related event. If you have a toxic relationship with any family members, issues will come to the forefront with them during this transit. 

If Pluto is in your 5th house, or rules your 5th house: The Uranus opposite Pluto transit brings major changes in the area of love, romance, children, and creativity. 

If Pluto is in your 6th house, or rules your 6th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect sweeping changes to your area of health, work, and routines. There may be a major reshuffle at your workplace. Take care of yourself during this time, as things can get stressful.

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If Pluto is in your 7th house, or rules your 7th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect major changes to your 1-1 relationships. These include romantic and business partnerships.

If Pluto is in your 8th house, or rules your 8th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect sweeping changes in regards to intimacy, shared resources, and inner transformation. 

If Pluto is in your 9th house, or rules your 9th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect major changes to your realm of faith, travel and higher education. A crisis of faith may occur at this time. Travel could be very stressful, yet transformative and profound, during this period.

If Pluto is in your 10th house, or rules your 10th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect major changes to your career and relationship with authority figures. In my case, I experienced a major job change, which turned out to be a great thing for me!

If Pluto is in your 11th house, or rules your 11th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect sweeping changes to your friendship circle. There may be power struggles with friends. If you have thinking about leaving your friend group for a while, this transit will propel you to do so immediately.

If Pluto is in your 12th house, or rules your 12th house: During a Uranus opposite Pluto transit, expect major changes to your realm of dreams, spirituality, and your inner world. Sudden flashes of insight are likely to occur during this transit. You may change your spiritual path completely. 

 

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On-and-Off Relationships in Astrology

Many of my clients are involved in on-and-off relationships, and want to know if they will ever settle down into a long-term, stable relationship. These types of relationships are unstable, unpredictable, and hard to manage. Feelings for each other can run hot and cold, and it can be difficult to know exactly where you stand with each other.

According to Healthline, “Findings from various studies suggest anywhere from about 30 to 60 percent of dating young adults have some experience with on-and-off relationships, also known as relationship cycling or churning.”

In astrology, what aspects point to on-and-off relationships?

Synastry Aspects

Uranus is responsible for on-and-off relationships. Why is that?

Uranus is the planet of instability, unpredictability, and change. When someone’s Uranus makes hard aspects to your natal planets or angles, an unstable and unpredictable connection is indicated. In this relationship, it may be difficult to settle down into a committed and stable relationship.

In these relationships, feelings of love and attraction develop very quickly and unexpectedly, but can disappear in a similar fashion.

In relationships which feature strong Uranus in synastry, it is the Uranus person who usually brings the unstable energy to the relationship. In these cases, the Uranus person usually feels stifled or repressed by the planet person, which can cause them to withdraw from the relationship. This is especially the case if the planet person is trying to pressure the Uranus person for commitment.

However, the Uranus person might eventually start missing them and will want to get back with the planet person. The cycle of breaking up and getting back together might go on a long time before someone breaks it off for good.

Aspects to look out for:

 

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One person’s Sun conjunct, square, or opposite another person’s Uranus

One person’s Moon conjunct, square, or opposite another person’s Uranus

One person’s Venus conjunct, square, or opposite another person’s Uranus

One person’s Mars conjunct, square, or opposite another person’s Uranus

One person’s Ascendant conjunct, square, or opposite another person’s Uranus

One person’s 7th house ruler conjunct, square, or opposite another person’s Uranus

Composite Aspects 

Strong Uranus aspects in a couple’s Composite Chart is another excellent indication of an on-off relationship. It indicates a relationship that is unstable and unpredictable, and the couple may have difficulty settling down into a stable and committed partnership.

In relationships like these, one or both partners may feel smothered or restricted by the other, which can result in pulling away or distancing themselves from each other. However, one or both partner may start missing the relationship and get back together, only for the cycle to repeat itself once again.

For these couples, freedom and individuality are very important. This does not necessarily mean the relationship should be open or non-monogamous, but it should allow both people a lot of space to be their authentic selves.

Aspects to look out for:

Composite Sun conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

Composite Moon conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

Composite Venus conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

Composite Mars conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

Composite 1st house ruler conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

Composite 7th house ruler conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

Composite Ascendant conjunct, opposite, or square Composite Uranus

 

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Transits

If you are currently involved in an on-and-off relationship, I’d also encourage you to take a look at your transits.

Hard Uranus transits to your natal planets, angles, or houses can indicate you will enter an on-an-off relationship.

During this time, you might meet one or many love interests. These relationships start very suddenly and unexpectedly, and feelings develop rapidly. Uranus is like a lightning bolt that jolts us into a period of excitement and unpredictability, and can be quite disorienting for those who are not used to the energy.

However, the partners you attract during this time may be Uranus-oriented (i.e. strong Aquarius or Uranus placements in their natal chart). They are different than the type of person you are used to dating; perhaps they are from a different ethnic background, culture, or social status than you. You revel in your partner’s uniqueness and individuality, and you feel excited about your relationship with them.

Over time, however, you may feel your partner pulling back from you, which might confuse you. Things were going so well, what went wrong?

Uranus is all about freedom and independence, so Uranian energy can definitely complicate relationships. Your partner might feel smothered or restricted by the relationship, which leads them to take many breaks from you. They might return to you, only to pull away again. This can be very confusing and frustrating for you, given how quickly your feelings developed for them.

Attempting to control or manipulate a Uranus-oriented person is not advised. Uranus people adore their freedom, and are not easily attached to others. If a relationship feels too serious or traditional, they perceive it as a burden and want to escape.

During a Uranus transit, it is best to go with the flow and enjoy your time with your partner. In fact, you may not even be interested in them once the transit is over!

Transits to watch out for:

Transit Uranus square your natal Venus

Transit Uranus square your natal Mars

Transit Uranus square your natal 5th house ruler

Transit Uranus square your natal 7th house ruler

Transit Uranus through your 5th house

Transit Uranus through your 7th house

I recently had a Uranus square Venus transit, and had an interesting experience. I met an Aquarius guy and feel pretty hard for him. We met online- go figure- and feelings definitely developed quickly. We even said “I love you” to each other within the first month, which in retrospect was totally crazy, as we barely knew each other.

The relationship, however, was very on-and-off. For whatever reason, we were unable to settle down into a predictable and stable routine together. It was an extremely frustrating, yet exciting relationship.

So how did it all end?

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I got sick of the on-off nature of the relationship and broke things off. Oddly enough, once the transit was completely over, I lost all interest in him, and I was even confused as to why I was with him in the first place.

Natal Aspects

What about if all of your relationships are on-and-off? Throughout my time doing readings for my clients, some of them had never been in a serious, committed relationship before.

Strong Uranus in your natal chart can point to difficulty finding a stable relationship.

In some cases, the person really wants to settle down, but can only seem to attract unstable partners.

More often, the person might be subconsciously choosing unavailable partners due to their own fear of commitment.  I also find that some of these folks love the excitement and unpredictability of the relationship, for it keeps them from getting bored.

Aspects to look out for:

Natal Sun conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal Moon conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal Venus conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal Mars conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal Ascendant conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal 5th house ruler conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal 7th house ruler conjunct, square, or opposite natal Uranus

Natal Uranus in the 5th house

Natal Uranus in the 7th house

 

Are you currently in an on-off relationship? What synastry or Composite aspects do you share with them, which may explain the on-off energy?

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The Astrology of Intimidating People

According to Very Well Mind, “People described as intimidating are often overly domineering and cause others to feel threatened, overwhelmed, or even afraid.”

When you meet someone who is intimidating, you immediately feel a sense of dread around them. They command a certain type of presence that makes others uncomfortable.

In Astrology, what makes someone intimidating? In this article, we will go over the various natal chart aspects and placements that point to intimidation.

Natal Pluto in hard aspect to Natal Ascendant:

Pluto is the planet of power and control, so your natal Pluto in conjunction, square, or opposition to your Ascendant indicates you have a very powerful presence. You come across as someone confident and in control, which can be intimidating to others, especially insecure types!

Pluto also represents extremes. In hard aspect to your natal Ascendant, it can indicate others have extreme reactions to you – either people love you at first, or hate you at first. If you have Pluto in hard aspect to your Ascendant, do you notice people seem somewhat afraid of you, especially at first? This is Pluto’s influence.

Natal Pluto in the 1st house: 

Natal Pluto in the first house indicates you have a very powerful presence. The 1st house represents our persona, or the ‘mask’ we wear when we first meet others. It also describes our personal style and physical body.

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Having this planet in your first house indicates your Pluto energies are always on display, for everyone to see. When people meet you, they can feel your powerful presence. You may even find that people have extreme reactions to you; some people might immediately dislike you, and others might immediately adore you!

You come across as powerful and in control, which can be intimidating for other people. You may not even mean to come across this way, but it is hard to hide this energy since it is in your 1st house for all to see.

Natal Scorpio Ascendant:

People with their Ascendant in Scorpio are usually very sexy, intense, passionate people. Scorpio is often referred to as the sexiest sign in the zodiac, and I cannot help but agree. They give off an aura of strength and power, which can be very intimidating to others.  Spotting a Scorpio Ascendant is easy: they are mysterious, cool, and give off an aura of intensity and depth.

Like with strong Pluto placements, having one’s Ascendant in Scorpio means your Scorpio qualities are on display for all to see. I personally find Scorpio Ascendants very sexy and seductive, but they do give off a “Don’t F*ck with Me” energy that might intimidate others.

Natal Planets in Scorpio:

Having inner planets, especially Sun and Moon, in Scorpio can indicate you are quite intimidating.

Scorpios are not generally warm and fuzzy people (unless other aspects indicate otherwise). Instead, they are rather intense, provocative, and powerful. People with inner planets in Scorpio have a strong distaste of inauthenticity, lying, and superficiality. They have built-in BS detectors, and can easily see through people’s facades.

Scorpios are penetrating and insightful, and do not tolerate nonsense. As a result, they can be very intimidating to others.

Natal Saturn in the 1st house: 

Natal Saturn in the first house indicates you come across as very responsible and serious. Saturn represents duty, commitment, and hard work, so its placement in your first house indicates these qualities are on display for all to see.

To others, you appear as a no-nonsense, cold, and business-like person. You might project an air of superiority or snobbiness without even trying to. Because of this, you might come across as very unapproachable or intimidating.

Natal Capricorn Ascendant:

People with their Ascendant in Capricorn project an aura of competence, maturity and responsibility. Capricorn is naturally ruled by Saturn, so it acts similarly to Saturn in the first house.

Capricorn Ascendants can come across as intimidating, due to a cold and uninviting demeanour. They may even come across as snobby and elitist, even if they do not mean to! People may be afraid to approach them out of fear the Capricorn Ascendant person will reject their advances.

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Natal Planets in Capricorn:

Having inner planets, especially Sun and Moon, in Capricorn can indicate you are quite intimidating.

Capricorn people are often described as cold, ambitious, mature, and responsible. Some of them may not be very friendly, especially at first, because a Capricorn needs to trust you before they open up to you.

To others, Capricorns may come off as cold, distant, and snobby. And, of course, intimidating.

Natal Chart ruler in Scorpio or Capricorn: 

While your Ascendant represents your persona and outer appearance, the ruler of your Ascendant can give you more clues on how you come across to others.

What is your natal chart ruler?

  • If your 1st house is in Aries, your chart ruler is Mars
  • If your 1st house is in Taurus, your chart ruler is Venus
  • If your 1st house is in Gemini, your chart ruler is Mercury
  • If your 1st house is in Cancer, your chart ruler is the Moon
  • If your 1st house is in Leo, your chart ruler is the Sun
  • If your 1st house is in Virgo, your chart ruler is Mercury
  • If your 1st house is in Libra, your chart ruler is Venus
  • If your 1st house is in Scorpio, your chart ruler is Pluto
  • If your 1st house is in Sagittarius, your chart ruler is Jupiter
  • If your 1st house is in Capricorn, your chart ruler is Saturn
  • If your 1st house is in Aquarius, your chart ruler is Uranus
  • If your 1st house is in Pisces, your chart ruler is Neptune

Now that you know your chart ruler, what sign is it in?

If your chart ruler is in Capricorn or Scorpio, you may come across as quite intimidating to others. Your Chart ruler has a lot of influence over your persona and how you come across to others, so Scorpio and Capricorn influences can definitely indicate intimidation.

 

Has anyone ever said you are intimidating? Which aspects do you believe are responsible for this?

 

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Composite Jupiter-Saturn Aspects 

Composite Jupiter conjunct Saturn is generally a very good aspect to find in a Composite chart. Saturn in the planet of restriction, tradition, commitment, and responsibility, while Jupiter represent expansion and positivity. Together, they are a great team. In this relationship, there is a good mix of optimism and realism. The two of them feel positive about their relationship and long-term potential. They feel happy in their responsibilities to each other, and know they can rely on one another.

Composite Jupiter sextile Saturn or Composite Jupiter trine Saturn is a wonderful aspect to find in a Composite chart. It indicates the couple feel positive about their future together. In this relationship, responsibility and commitment does not feel like a burden. The couple takes on challenges with stride and work together very well.

Composite Jupiter opposite Saturn or Composite Jupiter square Saturn indicates differences between the couple. One of the partners might be very optimistic and positive, while the other is more pessimistic and realistic. When one partner has big ideas or big plans, the other partner might express skepticism and offer practical alternatives. One partner might see the other as a ‘wet blanket’, while the other sees their partner as impractical or gullible. It is important to work on a balance between idealism and realism in this relationship, for there is a tendency to go back and forth between the two.

Composite Jupiter-Uranus aspects

Composite Jupiter conjunct Uranus is generally a very good aspect to find in a Composite chart. Jupiter represents positivity and expansion, while Uranus rules liberation and freedom.  In this relationship, individualism and independence are encouraged. They encourage each other’s freedom and individuality. These two have a lot of fun together, and find the relationship refreshing and full of life. They love trying new things and traveling to new places together, as they bring out each other’s adventurous sides.

Composite Jupiter sextile Uranus or Composite Jupiter trine Uranus is a wonderful aspect to find in a Composite chart. It indicates the couple feel they can be their true selves around each other. Neither partner feels judged or criticized by the other. Fun times are ahead for this couple.

Composite Jupiter opposite Uranus or Composite Jupiter square Uranus indicates the couple love trying new things together, but there may be a tendency to make imprudent and impractical decisions. The couple might make big plans together, but might lack the discipline to see them through. Consistency and reliability are not particularly strong here, but the couple certainly has a great time together. They encourage each other to take risks and think outside the box.

 

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Composite Jupiter-Neptune aspects

Composite Jupiter conjunct Neptune is a positive aspect to find in a Composite Chart. This aspect expands the couple’s spiritual, dreamy, sensitive nature. A strong psychic link might exist between the two of them. This is likely a very spiritual connection, full of compassion and sensitivity. Delusions may also be strong in this relationship, so take great care to stay grounded and realistic in this relationship.

Composite Jupiter sextile or Neptune or Composite Jupiter trine Neptune is a wonderful aspect to find in a Composite chart. It increases the spiritual and psychic link between the partners. This aspect indicates a sweet and compassionate link between the partners.

Composite Jupiter opposite Neptune or Composite Jupiter square Neptune can bring challenges if the couple gets too carried away with illusions about the relationships. There may be a tendency to want to see the best in each other and others. In this relationship, the couple might encourage each other’s impractical nature. It is important to stay realistic and grounded in this relationship.

Composite Jupiter-Pluto aspects

Composite Jupiter conjunct Pluto is a positive aspect to find in a Composite Chart. This aspect indicates the couple dreams big and has strong goals. They generally feel positive about each other and the relationship. The relationship introduces positive change and transformation, and both partners feel stronger as a team. Due to the religious and philosophical nature of Jupiter, this aspect can also indicate the relationship changes the religious or philosophical views of one or both partners.

Composite Jupiter sextile Pluto or Composite Jupiter trine Pluto is a wonderful aspect to find in a Composite chart. When the couple faces difficulties or obstacles, they work together to overcome them. Both partners are receptive to positive change, and generally feel supported by each other.

Composite Jupiter opposite Pluto or Composite Jupiter square Pluto indicates the couple feels more powerful when they work as a team. They encourage each other to dream big and go after what they want. At the same time, this aspect can also indicate challenges to each other’s religious and philosophical viewpoints. One or both partners might try to impose their views on the other, which could cause conflict between them.

Composite Jupiter-Ascendant Aspects:

Composite Jupiter conjunct Ascendant is a positive aspect to find in a Composite Chart. It indicates the couple has a joyful, open-minded, generous energy, and others love being around them. As a couple, they are the ‘life of the party’, and each partner feels more joyful, positive, and gregarious when they are together. This couple might attract a lot of good luck, fortune, and opportunities as a result of this relationship.

Composite Jupiter sextile Ascendant or Composite Jupiter trine Ascendant are great to find in a Composite Chart. It indicates the couple feel joy and positivity about their relationship. They are generous and openminded with one another, and feel best when they are together.

Composite Jupiter opposite Ascendant is a wonderful aspect to find in a Composite Chart, especially if the Composite Jupiter is in the 7th house. In this case, the couple enjoy being in a relationship together, and have positive feelings about the future. It is also an excellent indication for marriage.

Composite Jupiter square Ascendant indicates a lot of fun and optimism in the relationship. This couple is enthusiastic and positive about their relationship, and love the positivity and optimism they generate as a couple.  Since Jupiter is the planet of expansion and excess, this aspect indicates the couple loves to have fun and spend, eat, drink etc. more together than when they are apart.

 

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Composite Saturn Aspects

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Composite Jupiter-Saturn Aspects 

Composite Jupiter conjunct Saturn is generally a very good aspect to find in a Composite chart. Saturn in the planet of restriction, tradition, commitment, and responsibility, while Jupiter represent expansion and positivity. Together, they are a great team. In this relationship, there is a good mix of optimism and realism. The two of them feel positive about their relationship and long-term potential.

Composite Jupiter sextile or trine Saturn is a wonderful aspect to find in a Composite chart. It indicates the couple feel positive about their future together. In this relationship, responsibility and commitment does not feel like a burden. The couple takes on challenges with stride and work together very well.

Composite Jupiter opposite or square Saturn indicates differences between the couple. One of the partners might be very optimistic and positive, while the other is more pessimistic and realistic. When one partner has big ideas or big plans, the other partner might express skepticism and offer practical alternatives. One partner might see the other as a ‘wet blanket’.

Composite Saturn-Uranus Aspects 

Composite Saturn conjunct Uranus can be a challenging aspect. Uranus is the planet of freedom and liberation, while Saturn is the planet of responsibility and duty. In this relationship, both partners may feel they cannot express their individuality and uniqueness. As a result, the relationship can feel quite restrictive and restrained, with little room for spontaneity. This aspect also indicates the couple has difficulty when it comes to commitment and responsibility, and may feel they cannot count on each other in times of need.

Composite Saturn trine or sextile Uranus is a generally positive aspect. It indicates a positive blending of freedom with responsibility. Both partners feel they can express their unique individuality in this relationship, while still remaining committed and responsible to each other.

Composite Saturn square or opposite Uranus is a challenging aspect, which acts much like the conjunction. Hard aspects between Saturn and Uranus show a clash between commitment and loyalty, and freedom and individuality. Both partners likely feel quite burdened or stifled by the relationship, for they feel the relationship restricts their freedom in some way. When one partner tries to control or restrict, the other partner rebels and wants to break free. Both partners feel they cannot be themselves in this relationship.

Composite Saturn-Neptune Aspects 

Composite Saturn conjunct Neptune indicates a blending of realism and practicality, with spirituality and compassion. Neptune is a very dreamy, sensitive, impractical sign, while Saturn represents realism, maturity and discipline. This aspect indicates the couple takes practical steps to make their dreams come true. This is a wonderful aspect to see in the charts of spiritually-minded or creative couples, as Saturn provides practicality, reason, and prudence for Neptune’s dreams and fantasies.

Composite Saturn sextile or trine Neptune indicates the couple work together to make their dreams a reality. Neptune is generally impractical and dreamy, so Saturn’s influence is welcome here. Neptune softens Saturn’s hard edges, so the relationship does not feel overly stuffy or restrictive.

Composite Saturn square or opposite Neptune is a challenging aspect. It indicates a tension between duty and responsibility (Saturn) and fantasy, dreams, and spirituality (Neptune). One partner may feel the other is overly pessimistic and cold, while the other feels their partner is impractical and delusional. This aspect can point to a lot of hurt feelings and frustrations.

Composite Saturn-Pluto Aspects 

Composite Saturn conjunct Pluto is a very powerful aspect. Saturn is the planet of restriction, discipline, commitment, responsibility and duty, among other things. Pluto represents death. transformation, obsession, deep intimacy and shared resources. This aspect can point to an obsession with duty and responsibility, with each partner testing each other’s loyalty and commitment to the relationship. On the plus side, this aspect can bond a couple together, for they both might feel very committed and loyal to each other. If they work together, this aspect can indicate much success, as they are very powerful when they work together towards a common goal.

Composite Saturn sextile or trine Pluto is a positive aspect that indicates the couple feels stronger as a unit, than they do individually. They encourage each other’s determination and commitment, and feel they can take on any challenge when they are together.

Composite Saturn square or opposite Pluto is a challenging aspect. Pluto is the sign of deep intimacy, transformation and intense bonding, so a hard aspect from Saturn can block or restrict these energies. The couple might play games to test each other’s commitment and loyalty in the relationship. Jealousy and paranoia can cause issues between the couple. They might find it difficult to work together or support each other due to the intense power struggles between them.

 

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The Astrology of Lone Wolves

I consider a lone wolf as someone who prefers being on their own. People enjoy being alone for different reasons: some enjoy freedom and independence, while others are introverted and find people exhausting.

What aspects point to a Lone Wolf in a natal chart?

Planets in 12th house

Natal Planets (particularly inner planets and 1st house ruler) in the 12th house indicates someone who greatly prefers being on their own. In fact, people with this placement NEED to be alone. This is one of the strongest signs of introversion, as it indicates the native feels very drained by social interaction.

Whenever a planet in the 12th house person socializes too much, they get exhausted and need to retreat into their cave to recharge their batteries. The 12th house is a very sensitive house, and having planets there increases a person’s sensitivity to others. 12th house people easily pick up on the moods and feelings of those around them, which can make socializing for long periods very difficult and emotionally taxing.

Pisces is the natural ruler of the 12th house, so strong Pisces aspects can also signify someone who requires a lot of time alone.

Strong Uranus Aspects

Strong Uranus aspects in the natal chart point to someone very independent and individualistic. Uranus represents freedom and detachment, as well as eccentricity and unpredictability.

People with strong Uranus in their charts are usually enjoy being on their own, and generally have a detached view of relationships. Freedom is of utmost importance to them, so they tend to dislike when others are dependent or reliant on them. When people get too close, Uranus-heavy people feel easily smothered and want to escape.

I personally have Sun conjunct Uranus in my chart, and I feel very stifled by others. I prefer doing things on my own, because it gives me the freedom to do whatever I want. In general, I do not like depending on others, as it makes me feel trapped.

Aquarius Placements

Uranus is the natural ruler of the sign Aquarius, so people born in this sign can have lone wolf qualities. Aquarius is an impersonal, independent, freedom-loving sign, and dance to the beat of their own drum.

While they love spending time with friends and being a part of a group, Aquarius people are very independent and enjoy being on their own. Aquarius is an eccentric and quirky sign, and being alone allows Aquarius to let out their inner weird without judgement.

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Strong Cancer or 4th House Placements

Cancer represents the home and family, as well as caring and nurturing. In general, I find that people born in this sign are often very private and reclusive. As with all water signs, Cancer is a sensitive sign, and pick up on the moods and feelings of others easily. As such, it makes sense they require time to themselves to recharge. As Cancer is the natural ruler of the 4th house, people born in this sign enjoy spending time at home most of all; it is where they feel most safe and secure.

I personally know 3 Cancer women very well, and they all live out in the wilderness (with their partners), and spend a lot of time alone in nature.

People with planets in the 4th house (especially Sun and Moon) are similar to those with Cancer placements, in that they enjoy spending time at home. Home is where 4th house people feel most comfortable and secure, so they might not enjoy going out at all.

Saturn in 11th House

Saturn in the 11th house can point to difficulties with friends and groups. With this placement, it is easy to feel alienated when you are in a crowd, which can make socializing and maintaining relationships very difficult.

People with Saturn in the 11th house take friendships very seriously. Perhaps, too seriously! Saturn represents responsibility and duty, so friendships can sometimes feel burdensome. As a result, the native might prefer being on their own rather than deal with the responsibility of friendship.

With this placement, group activities can feel awkward, as the native never feels they quite fit in with others.

Scorpio or 8th House Placements

Scorpio is an intensely private and not trust others easily. As the ruler of the 8th house of deep intimacy and transformation, Scorpio is not fond of superficiality. Instead, they look for real, authentic connections.

As a result, Scorpio or 8th house heavy people can be quite introverted until they find people they can trust.

Would you consider yourself a Lone Wolf? What aspects and placements do you have?

 

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Composite South Node Aspects

Composite Sun conjunct South Node 

The Composite Sun conjunct South Node indicates this relationship is rooted in previous lifetimes. You have met before, and have come together to attend to unfinished business. Where does this conjunction fall in the Composite Chart? What house does the Composite Sun rule? What Sign is the conjunction? The answers to these questions will give you clues as to how this aspect will play out in your relationship.

In this relationship, a strong feeling of comfort and familiarity is present. While you feel very connected to each other on a karmic level, there can be a distinct feeling of being ‘held back’ by the relationship. Perhaps the relationship reinforces outdated habits of yours, which prevent you from progressing and developing. For some, this might be just find, and for others, the relationship can feel stifling.

Composite Moon conjunct South Node 

The Composite Moon conjunct South Node indicates the two of you share a past life connection. Perhaps one of you was a mothering or nurturing figure in the other’s life. In this relationship, there may be a tendency to fall back on well-established and familiar emotional patterns, which are very comfortable and relatable for both of you. There is likely unfinished emotional or family-related business from a past life that you have come together to deal with in this life. Being with each other feels like ‘home’.

While the Relationship is very comfortable and relatable for you both, there may be a feeling the relationship is holding you back, particularly in regards to emotional development. As some point, one or both of you may feel you need more of challenge, for the relationship feels too easy and familiar, and prevents your own emotional development.

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Composite Mercury conjunct South Node

The Composite Mercury conjunct South Node indicates a profound intellectual connection. In a past life, you may have been siblings or neighbours, or even schoolmates. The two of you share deeply rooted thought patters and ideas, and feel very comfortable communicating with each other. In some ways, talking to each other is very comforting to both of you, for both of you feel inherently understood by the other.

At the same time, the lack of intellectual development may become bothersome to one or both of you after a while. You may feel you are intellectually ‘stuck’ when you are with your partner, for they do not encourage you to think outside the box and explore new ideas.

Composite Venus conjunct South Node

The Composite Venus conjunct South Node is a very powerful aspect. It indicates the couple was married, or in a serious partnership, in a past life. Unfinished karma and baggage has brought them back together in this life.

There is a strong feeling of comfort and familiarity in this relationship. You find it easy to get along, and naturally want to partner with each other. Feelings develop very quickly between you two, and the physical attraction is hard to beat.

At the same time, you might feel stuck or stifled because you do not feel this relationship has potential for growth. You may get stuck in the same patterns and habits in this relationship, which could become burdensome after a while. Once you have learned your lessons in this relationship, the two of you might break up, but the memory of the relationship will last a lifetime. Of course, some couples with this aspect will stay together for a very long time. It is advisable to check the other aspects Venus forms in the Composite chart for a better picture of your future.

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Composite Mars conjunct South Node

The Composite Mars conjunct Composite South Node indicates a relationship rooted in the past. As such, the two of you feel very comfortable with each other. The sexual connection you share is out of this world, and you can sense your physical chemistry immediately, as you likely shared a passionate sexual connection in a past life.

At the same time, there may be residual anger and frustrations for each other from a past life. Working through past karma together can bring up a lot of anger and frustrations in each of you. One or both of you may feel held back my the relationship, especially when it comes to sex, goals and energy.

Composite Jupiter conjunct South Node

The Composite Jupiter conjunct South Node indicates a past life relationship where one of the partners acted as a guide or guru for the other partner. The two of you feel very comfortable with each other, as a sense of positivity and happiness washes over you when you are together. Together, you and your partner are able to deal with past karma and emotional baggage in a positive way.

Composite Saturn conjunct South Node

Composite Saturn conjunct South Node is a heavy aspect. It indicates you and your partner suffered great hardships in the past, and the memories of your past linger when you are together. In this relationship, you might experience many challenges and hardships, particularly when it comes to dealing with your past karma and emotional baggage as a couple.

There can be a strong feeling of being held back in this relationship, for the connection between you feels very heavy and restrictive. At the same time, there is also a strong sense of responsibility and commitment to each other, as Saturn acts like ‘glue’ in a relationship. Maturity and responsibility are major themes in this relationship, and helps each partner grow up and become more responsible.

Composite Uranus conjunct South Node 

Composite Uranus conjunct South Node indicates the two of you shared a past life full of excitement, instability, and rebelliousness. While the relationship is quiet unpredictable and unstable, you both somehow feel comfortable with each other and the chaos you create. The relationship is challenging and invigorating, as you never know what to expect next. The couple encourages each other’s individuality, independence, and freedom.

Eventually, the unpredictable and chaotic nature of the relationship may become burdensome or irritating. At some point, one or both of you might want more stability and predictability, which may cause a breakup between you.

Uranus-Node relationships usually start quite suddenly and unexpectedly, but can also end just as suddenly and unexpectedly!

Composite Neptune conjunct South Node

Composite Neptune conjunct South Node indicates a past life relationship rooted in spirituality, dreams, and illusions. One or both partners may have acted as a spiritual guru for the other partner in a past life. Or, one of the partners may have deceived the other in a past life. Themes of escapism, delusions, and illusions are common in this relationship. The connection overall is very dreamy, sweet, but undefined and confusing in some way.

At some point, one or both partners may end up feeling stuck in the relationship. You both enjoy the beautiful world you create together, but the lack of definition and practicality in the relationship can cause issues between the two of you. One or both of you might eventually want something more defined and ‘real’, rather than something undefined and abstract.

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Composite Pluto conjunct South Node

Composite Pluto conjunct South Node indicates an intense and transformative relationship. The two of you shared a deep connection in a past life, which may have been fraught with power struggles, manipulation, jealousy, and even abuse. You have been brought together in this lifetime to deal with past karma and attend to unfinished business.

The connection between you feels very heavy, obsessive and powerful. You trigger each other’s inner fears and desires, and bring out hidden sides of each other’s personalities. You might see a side of yourself or your partner you do not like throughout this process. Pluto helps the two of you purge your karma and heal from past-life traumas, but this process will not be easy.

Composite Ascendant conjunct South Node

Composite Ascendant conjunct South Node, or Composite North Node conjunct Descendant, indicates a past-life relationship which ended with unfinished business between the two of you. In this lifetime, you have reunited to resolve your past-life karma with each other.

This aspect indicates your previous relationship, the two of you may have had difficultly forming an equal, committed partnership. Perhaps one or both of you was too selfish or self-focused to make them for the other person. In this lifetime, the couple is called on to work together to build a committed, equal partnership.

 

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