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Composite Neptune in the Houses

Composite Neptune in the 1st house

Composite Neptune in the 1st house indicates the couple projects a glamourous, dreamy, artistic vibe to others. Both partners are more sensitive, compassionate and intuitive to each other than to others.

There may be some confusion around where the relationship is going, and defining the relationship itself. There may be a tendency for one or both partners to project their ideals onto the relationship. As a result, the couple might not be seeing the relationship realistically, but rather see the relationship for what they want it to be.

The threat of deception is higher when Neptune makes hard aspects to other Composite planets and angles.  Positive aspects, particularly from Saturn, can help the couple ground their expectations.

Composite Neptune in the 2nd house

Composite Neptune in the 2nd house indicates the couple tends to be quite idealistic and unrealistic when it comes to money matters.

This couple might not be the best at practical matters, like planning and saving.  As a result, the couple needs to be careful not to be deceived or swindled by others.

Composite Neptune in the 3rd house

Composite Neptune in the 3rd house indicates the communication between the couple can be quite sweet and sensitive, but also confusing and hazy. In this relationship, both partners tend to be quite gentle in their communication with each other, and may even feel they can read each other’s minds.

On the downside, it can be difficult to get clear answers from each other, and it can feel you are on different pages entirely. Miscommunications and misunderstanding are common in this relationship. Both partners feel they need to re-explain or clarify what they meant by a certain statement, which can lead to frustration and further confusion.

If the couple is artistic or creative, this placement can be a great thing. In this case, the couple will enjoy coming up with creative ideas and daydreaming together.

Composite Neptune in the 4th house

Composite Neptune in the 4th house indicates idealization of the home and family. This couple sees their home as a spriritual haven where they can escape from everyday realities.

This asepct can also cause confusion around home life and family. It may be difficult for this couple to agree on decisions regarding the home. There may be a lack of groundedness and boundaries in the home.

Composite Neptune in the 5th house

Composite Neptune in the 5th house indicates a highly romantic relationship, The 5th house represents fun, play, romance, and creativity, so Neptune in this house adds a dreamy and idealistic energy to this area of the couple’s life.

In this relationship, there is much artistic and creative inspiration, so it would be a wonderful placement in the chart of a creative couple.

Composite Neptune in the 6th house

Composite Neptune in the 6th house indicates confusion and haziness around daily routines. In this relationship, it can be difficult to stick to plans and manage mundane tasks.  As a result, chores and tasks may fall to the wayside when this couple is together.

Neptune is the natural ruler of the 12th house, which is the opposite of the 6th house. The sixth house has to do with work, productivity, and detail-orientation, so Neptune does not do as well here.

Composite Neptune in the 7th house

Composite Neptune in the 7th house indicates a highly romantic and idealistic relationship. If well-aspected, this placement can certainly indicate a wonderful, long-lasting relationship.

The couple find each other ideal, and see each other as soulmates. Being in a relationship together feels like a dream come true.

As with all Neptune aspects and placements, the threat of deception and delusion is present. There may be a tendency for each partner to over idealize the relationship and look past serious problems.

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Composite Neptune in the 8th house

Composite Neptune in the 8th house indicates psychological and spiritual connection between the couple.  On an emotional and intimate level, the relationship is deep and spiritual, and highly transformative for both parties. It is important to set sexual and intimate boundaries in this couple, given the hazy energy of Neptune.

The 8th house also has to do with shared resources. Neptune in this house can indicates confusion or deception regarding taxes, inheritances, and shared accounts.

Composite Neptune in the 9th house

Composite Neptune in the 9th house indicates a highly spiritual relationship. The 9th house represents travel, religion, philosophy and higher education, and Neptune brings an idealistic and spiritual energy to these areas. As a couple, each partner become more spiritually minded and idealistic than before. At worst, this placement can indicate the couple gets involved with cults or other dishonest religious/spiritual scams.

The couple enjoys traveling together, and feel they have found the ideal travel partner in each other.  They may travel for spiritual purposes, and may enjoy visiting ashrams and spiritual places together.

Composite Neptune in the 10th house

Composite Neptune in the 10th house indicates a relationship where the overall directions or goals of the relationship are confusing and undefined. There may be a tendency for both partner to pedestalize or idealize the relationship greatly and sweep problems under the rug.

The 10th house also has to do with career and public reputation. Neptune in this house indicates others see them as a sensitive, compassionate, and sweet couple. If they are in a business together. the couple might find it difficult to work together due to miscommunications and misunderstandings.  This can work if the couple works in an artistic or spiritual field, though.

Composite Neptune in the 11th house

Composite Neptune in the 11th house indicates the couple has a spiritual approach to relationships and group activities. The couple might prefer spending time with their artistic and spiritual friends or clubs. Perhaps the couple joins a spiritual group or club together.

Composite Neptune in the 12th house

Composite Neptune in the 12th house indicates a highly spiritual, sensitive, and perhaps deceptive relationship. The 12th house is Neptune’s home; it represents all that is ‘hidden’, subconscious, and spiritual in the relationship.

This couple enjoys spending time alone together, and build a beautiful world together where they can escape from the suffering and hardships of society. They are very gentle and compassionate to one another, and may even share telepathic or intuitive bonds with each other.


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Composite Saturn in the Houses

Composite Saturn in the 1st house

Composite Saturn in the 1st house indicates a relationship where the couple comes across as very mature, serious and practical. This relationship helps each partner ‘grow up’ and become more responsible and cautious.

To others, this couple seems reserved and perhaps a bit cold.  Each partner’s nature is more toned down when they are together as a couple.

Composite Saturn in the 2nd house 

Composite Saturn in the 2nd house indicates a relationship where money matters are taken very seriously. Both partners are more financially cautious and responsible when they are together. This couple likes saving for a rainy day and investing for long-term gain.

There could also be frustrations related to financial issues in this relationship, as well, as Saturn tends to bring delays. If this is a working relationship, the couple may run into obstacles, barriers and delays when it comes to money matters.

Depending on the aspects Saturn makes to other planets, the couple may be quite miserly and others may find them ‘cheap’.

Composite Saturn in the 3rd house 

Composite Saturn in the 3rd house indicates a couple communicates in a serious and responsible way.  This couple does not particularly enjoy small talk, but prefer deep and serious subjects. There may be long periods of silence between them. Perhaps there is some self-consciousness when it comes to communication and sharing ideas.

This aspect can also point to strained relationships with neighbours and siblings.

Composite Saturn in the 4th house 

Composite Saturn in the 4th house indicates the couple takes a serious and mature approach to building a home and family. As parents, they might be quite strict.

At home, the couple might have many ‘house rules’ that may feel stifling and restrictive. The two of them may have had very different childhoods, which can make it challenging to compromise on domestic affairs.

There may also be strained relationships with each partner’s family.

Composite Saturn in the 5th house

Composite Saturn in the 5th house indicates a serious approach to love, play, and children. This relationship can sometimes feel overly serious, as it is not easy for this couple to let loose and play.  If one of the partners is a very social, fun-loving person, this relationship may feel like a ‘wet blanket’

As parents, this couple is strict with their children. It can also point to delays or difficulties in having children together.

Composite Saturn in the 6th house

Composite Saturn in the 6th house indicates the couple has a serious and responsible approach to day-to-day matters and work. As a team, this couple is able to accomplish a lot together. They are more disciplined when they are together than when they are apart, especially in regards to work and health matters.

This aspect works extremely well in working relationships. In a romantic relationship, this relationship can literally feel like work, as the couple likes to be productive together.

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Composite Saturn in the 7th house

Composite Saturn in the 7th house indicates the couple takes a serious approach to commitment and partnership. These two feel immediately responsible to each other, and want to work together to create a long-lasting and stable relationship.

In this relationship, the couple can truly count on one another in times of need. This is commonly seen in the Composite charts of married couples.

Composite Saturn in the 8th house

Composite Saturn in the 8th house brings a heavy planetary energy to an already heavy house. In this relationship, the couple takes a serious and responsible approach to intimacy and emotional bonding. There is a feeling they can rely on each other, even in the darkest times. Actually, especially in the darkest times.

The 8th house is a difficult house, but having someone you can rely on to support you is a huge blessing.

On the downside, this aspect can also point to restrained emotional and sexual intimacy.

Composite Saturn in the 9th house 

Composite Saturn in the 9th house indicates the couple takes a mature and serious approach to travel, philosphy and religion. Saturn can indicate commitment and discipline, but also restriction and frustration.

So, in this relationship, the couple could be very disciplined when it comes to their religious or philosophical views, or there could be major differences between them in this sense.

If this is a business partnership, the couple may go on many business trips together. If not, the couple may find traveling together very burdensome.

Composite Saturn in the 10th house

Composite Saturn in the 10th house indicates the couple takes a serious and mature approach to career matters and social status. Others see them as a power couple, as they are always working hard and achieving their goals.

This couple projects an aura of competence and responsibility. Others see them as a couple they can rely on.

Composite Saturn in the 11th house

Composite Saturn in the 11th house indicates the couple takes a serious and conservative approach to their friendships and long-term goals. The couple may feel restricted or strained when they are in a group. The relationship may cause separation and difficulties between the couple and their friends.

In social settings, others may see the couple as a wet blanket.

Composite Saturn in the 12th house

Composite Saturn in the 12th house indicates the couples takes a conservative and mature approach to spirituality and subconscious emotional baggage. The 12th house is the ‘hidden’ house, so the energies of a 12th house planet may not be consciously felt.

Instead, there may be a sense of restriction or guilt that hangs over the relationship, that seems to come out of nowhere.

While the couple might spend a lot of time alone together, which can indicate they feel cut off or isolated as a couple.


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Composite Jupiter in the Houses

Composite Jupiter in the houses interpretations

Composite Jupiter in the 1st house

Composite Jupiter in the 1st house indicate a relationship based on mutual joy and admiration. As a couple, you project a friendly, gregarious and generous nature. Others like being around you because of the positive energy you emit as a couple. Even if one or both of the partners is on the reserved side, as a couple, they come across as very outgoing.

You both feel very good when you are together.  There may be a shared interest in philosophy, travel and higher learning.

Composite Jupiter in the 2nd house

Composite Jupiter in the 2nd house indicates this couple enjoys spending money and accumulating possessions together. There may actually be a tendency to overdo and overspend as a couple if Jupiter is not aspected well. The two of you likely spoil each other with gifts and compliments. Exciting financial opportunities may be in the cards for this couple.

Composite Jupiter in the 3rd house 

Composite Jupiter in the 3rd house indicates the couple loves sharing ideas and communicating. The two of them talk for hours on a wide variety of subjects.  They are great at brainstorming together and coming up with lots of ideas. This couple enjoys taking short, local trips together, and hanging out with siblings and neighbours.

Composite Jupiter in the 4th house

Composite Jupiter in the 4th house indicates the couple love staying at home and enjoying each other’s company. There may be a strong desire to build a home and family together.

Home life feels more fulfilling and joyous when you are together. This couple likely enjoys positive relationships with each partner’s family. There may be a strong interest in real estate and/or interior design.

Composite Jupiter in the 5th house 

Composite Jupiter in the 5th house indicates this couple loves to play, laugh and flirt with each other. They truly have fun together, and enjoy playing games and socializing together.

This placement also indicates the couple desire children, and may have many of them! This is one of the best aspects for love and romance, for it keeps things fresh and fun.

Composite Jupiter in the 6th house 

Composite Jupiter in the 6th house indicates the couple enjoys running errands and working together. Mundane chores and domestic tasks feel more fun and joyous when they are doing them together. This is an excellent aspect for working relationships.

Jupiter in this house indicates the relationship has a positive effect on the health of each partner. However, it can also mean the couple becomes more lazy and excessive as a result of the relationship. Check out the sign and aspects of Composite Jupiter to determine this.

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Composite Jupiter in the 7th house

Composite Jupiter in the 7th house is one of the best Composite Aspects a couple can have. The 7th house has to do with commitment and partnerships, so having Jupiter in this house is a very good indication of long-term partnership or marriage.

The couple feels very positive about their relationship and their future. The relationship brings them much joy and positivity, and they are happy to stay together for a long time.

Composite Jupiter in the 8th house

Composite Jupiter in the 8th house indicates the couple enjoy intimacy and deep connection. The 8th house is quite heavy and dark, but can also be very sexy and  transformative.

This relationship is sensually and emotionally satisfying. The sexual connection is off the charts, and being intimate brings you both lots of joy and positive feelings.

Because the 8th house also has to do with shared resources, there is a good chance the couple attracts a lot of money.

Composite Jupiter in the 9th house

Composite Jupiter in the 9th house indicates the couple has shared interest in religion, philosophy, travel and/or higher learning. These two love going on long journeys and exploring different cultures together.

There may be shared religious or philosophical viewpoints. The relationship increases the couple’s optimism and open-mindedness.

Composite Jupiter in the 10th house

Composite Jupiter in the 10th house indicates the relationship has a positive effect on each partner’s career and social status.  Perhaps one or both of the partner bring opportunities and connections to help their partner’s career.

This couple is not afraid of being in the spotlight. Others admire them, and refer to them as the perfect couple. They project an aura of positivity and joy, which attracts a lot of attention from others.

Composite Jupiter in the 11th house

Composite Jupiter in the 11th house indicates the couple enjoy socializing with friends. Friendships, both with each other and with others, are very important to both partners.

The 11th house also has to do with groups and clubs, as well as humanitarian causes. This couple enjoys spending time together in a group setting. Others see them as the life of the party.

Composite Jupiter in the 12th house

Composite Jupiter in the 12th house indicates a relationship where the couple enjoy spending time alone together. Both partners are very sensitive to each other, and their powers of intuition are heightened when they are together.

The 12th house is a rather dark and heavy house, as it deals with our karma and subconscious emotional issues. With Jupiter in the Composite 12th house, a healing relationship is indicated. Both partners can help each other move past past traumas and heal their inner world.


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Asteroid Valentine in Synastry

The Asteroid 447 is Valentine, a Love Asteroid that has a big impact in compatibility and synastry. Valentine represents true, pure love, and the sacrifices we are willing to make to be with our partner.

As I was researching Valentine, I was struck by how much it reminded me of Neptune and Pisces. Themes of spirituality, sacrifice, and pure love kept popping up, which taught me how powerful the Asteroid Valentine can be. Valentine brings love and understanding into a relationship, as well as understanding and forgiveness.

When I see strong Valentine aspects in a synastry chart, I am excited. The Valentine person usually wants to make the planet person happy, and does everything in their power to do so. It is an extremely romantic and sweet energy that is welcome in any relationship.

How does the Asteroid Valentine express itself when it makes an aspect to another person’s planet?

Valentine in Synastry

Sun-Valentine Aspects:

Sun-Valentine aspects indicate pure and simple love. When they meet, the Valentine person’s love nature is awakened and they develop deep, true feelings of affection when they are around the Sun person. Valentine puts the Sun person first, and considers their needs ahead of their own. The Sun person feels supported and adored by the Valentine person, and appreciates Valentine’s desire to make them happy.

Moon-Valentine Aspects:

Moon-Valentine aspects indicate emotional and spiritual love. The Valentine person encourages the Moon person to open up emotionally, and the Moon person feels comfortable to do so because they know the Valentine person will not judge them. There is a strong emotional connection between the couple, The Valentine person is willing to sacrifice themselves to ensure the Moon person’s happiness.

Mercury-Valentine Aspects;

Mercury-Valentine aspects in synastry indicate the Valentine person is in love with the Mercury person’s mind. Conversations and discussions bring the couple closer together. Valentine appreciates the Mercury person’s intellect and ideas, while the Mercury person feels safe to express themselves due to Valentine’s unjudgmental nature. Valentine listens and accepts the Mercury person’s thoughts and ideas unconditionally.

Venus-Valentine Aspects:

This aspect is a strong indication of love and sacrifice. In this relationship, the Valentine person gives themselves fully and unconditionally to the Venus person, and the Venus person blossoms under the Valentine person’s love and affection. The Valentine person sees the Venus person as their ideal partner and true love.

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Mars-Valentine Aspects:

Mars-Valentine Aspects indicate a courageous and brave couple. In this relationship, themes of protection and support are common. Valentine more bold, courageous and impulsive in creating a loving bond between themselves and the Mars person. They are willing to boldly sacrifice everything to be with the Mars person.

Jupiter-Valentine Aspects:

Jupiter-Valentine aspects are very romantic. The Jupiter person expands the Valentine’s persons loving, sacrificial nature, while Jupiter brings positivity and generosity to the relationship. The connection between them is positive and idealistic, and fulfilling for both partners.

Saturn-Valentine Aspects:

Saturn-Valentine aspects point to a long-term, reponsible and committed love. Valentine’s desire to sacrifice and support meshes well with Saturn’s responsibility and maturity. Together, this couple wants something long-lasting and sustainable. The Valentine person wants to help the Saturn person achieve their goals, and will sacrifice themselves to ensure it happens.

Uranus-Valentine Aspects:

Uranus-Valentine aspects point to a love of freedom and individuality. This relationship may have begun very quickly, with each person’s feelings developing rapidly. The Valentine person feels their loving nature awakened by the Uranus person. In this relationship, the Valentine person will sacrifice themselves to support Uranus’ freedom and individuality.

Neptune-Valentine Aspects:

Neptune-Valentine relationships feel like true, soulmate love. This relationship is deep, spiritual and ethereal, as both partners are highly romantic and are willing to sacrifice themselves for each other. They look past each other’s flaws and forgive each other easily. There is a strong desire to help each other and love one another unconditionally.

Pluto-Valentine Aspects:

Pluto-Valentine relationships are deep and transformative. The Valentine person feels obsessed with the Pluto person, and is willing to go to great lengths to make them happy. This connection is very intense and the couple may go through many difficulties and transformations together.

Ascendant-Valentine Aspects:

Aspects between the Ascendant and Valentine in synastry are very powerful. In this case, the Ascendant person is the real-life version of what they consider their true love. There isn’t much the Valentine person isn’t willing to do to be with the Ascendant person. This is a true love aspect, which is mostly felt by the Valentine person.


Have you had significant Valentine aspects in your synastry? How did it play out in your relationship? Comment below!


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Synastry of Instant Attraction

In this article, we address how to identify instant attraction between two people. Have you ever experienced “love at first sight”?

1st house Placements

The first house represents our physical appearance and persona, so someone’s planets falling in this house is a strong sign of attraction. Whether this attraction is romantic depends on the nature of the planet.

Venus in another person’s first house is a strong indication of instant attraction. A person’s Venus represents what they find beautiful, so when it falls in someone’s first house, the Venus person is strongly attracted. The house person is physically ideal to the Venus person. The Venus person loves the way the first house person dresses and carries themselves. This aspect indicates long-term attraction on the part of the Venus person.

Mars in another person’s first house is also a very powerful indication of attraction. The Mars person loves the first house person’s body and sensual energy, and may be quite forceful and aggressive in getting the first house person’s attention.

The Sun in another person’s first house is another strong indication of instant attraction. I find that with this placement, the Sun person notices the House person immediately, and the house person always ‘stands out’ to the Sun person. The Sun person relates a lot to the Ascendant person, and feels very attracted to their outer appearance.

I find that Neptune in the first house in synastry can also indicate love at first sight. If you have Neptune in your 1st house natally, people born around your age have their Neptune in your 1st house, as well.

If someone’s Neptune falls in your first house, they project their ideals onto you. They might see you as someone you are not, and fall in love with who they think you are. Neptune is the higher octave of Venus, and represents spiritual, unconditional love and glamorous beauty, so it is understandable that others are enchanted by those with Neptune in the 1st house.

Aspects to the Ascendant

Aspects to the Ascendant are also very powerful indicators of attraction. When someone’s planets make an aspect to your Ascendant, attraction is indicated.

This is especially true for the conjunction, as the house person is the physical manifestation of the planet of the other person. For example, Venus represents what someone finds beautiful, so Venus in conjunction to another person’s Ascendant indicates significant attraction. The Venus person is likely to remain attracted to the Ascendant person. The trine and sextile are also indicators of attraction, but not as powerful as the conjunction.

I also find that Venus square another person’s Ascendant is a very powerful indication of attraction. The Ascendant person may not be the Venus person’s regular type, but there is significant attraction nonetheless.

The opposition signifies mutual attraction; both partners find each other ideal!

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Uranus Aspects

Strong Uranus aspects are probably the strongest indications of ‘love at first sight’. Uranus is like a lightning bolt in synastry, and immediately creates an air of excitement for both partners.

Aspects to look for:

  • Sun-Uranus aspects
  • Moon-Uranus aspects
  • Venus-Uranus aspects
  • Mars-Uranus aspects
  • Ascendant-Uranus aspects

The more Uranus aspects you share with someone, the more likely you will be instantly attracted to each other. I find the hard aspects (conjunction, square, and opposition) to indicate instant attraction more than the trines or sextile. Hard aspects are simply more impactful; you can ‘feel’ them immediately!

At first, the couple feels they have found their ideal mate. The planet person in particularly feels electrified around the Uranus person; the Uranus person is different than anyone the planet person has ever met, and the possibilities are exciting.

In a Uranus relationship, feelings develop very quickly, but they can disappear just as quickly. Uranus, while exciting and electrifying, is not particularly stable or consistent, which can make settling down into a predictable relationship very difficult. The longevity of the relationship depends on the rest of synastry, particularly positive, binding Saturn aspects.

The Nodes

In my experience, the Nodes can definitely signify instant attraction between two people.

The South Node in conjunction to another person’s inner planets can indicate instant attraction. The South Node represents our past lives, so when someone’s planet is in conjunction to our South Node, we likely have a past-life connection.

The nature of the planet can give clues as to whether there is an instant attraction between the couple. I find Venus or the ruler of one person’s 7th house in conjunction to another person’s South Node are good indicators of attraction. These two have likely partnered in previous life, so when they meet, they immediately ‘recognize’ each other on a subconscious level.

I, myself, have experienced Venus-South Node in Synastry, and it was certainly a love-at-first-sight situation. I saw him across a crowded room and instantly fell for him I eventually broke up with him 4 years later, but it was one of my most significant relationships to date.

The North Node is also very attractive, especially when it is conjunct someone else’s Venus or Ascendant. The North Node represents progress and development, and the pull can be hard to resist. When someone’s Venus or Ascendant is conjunct your North Node, you are very attracted to them and possibilities they represent. North Node in conjunction to any planet or angle is hard to resist.

Aspects to look out for:

  • Nodes conjunct Sun
  • Nodes conjunct Moon
  • Nodes conjunct Mercury
  • Nodes conjunct Venus
  • Nodes conjunct Mars
  • Nodes conjunct Ascendant/Descendant
  • Nodes conjunct MC/IC
  • Nodes conjunct Vertex


To recap, first house overlays, Aspects to the Ascendant, Uranus aspects, and Node aspects can point to love at first sight.  Have you had any of these aspects in your synastry chart? Was it love at first sight?

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The Worst Aspects in Synastry

Earlier, we discussed the best synastry aspects you can find in a astrology compatibility chart.

But what about the ‘bad’ ones? Which synastry aspects are considered detrimental to a relationship? Let’s discuss.

The worst synastry aspects

Sun square Mars, Sun opposite Mars

This aspect is tough to handle , especially those who do not like too much conflict or drama in their relationships. The Sun and Mars are both confrontational and driven planets. so a square aspects between them in synastry can lead to much frustration and ego clashes.

In this couple, competitiveness is taken to a new level. These two may see each other more as enemies rather than partners, and tend to irritate each other easily. At some point, the irritation and conflict may become too much, resulting in a huge blowout.

Moon square Mars, Moon opposite Mars

Hard aspects between one person’s Mars and another person’s Moon indicates petty arguments and hurt feelings. In this relationship, the couple know how to get under each other’s skin.

The Moon person may find the Mars person overly aggressive, rude, and hurtful, while the Mars person thinks the Moon person is overly sensitive and emotional. Indeed, the Moon person is very sensitive to any perceived meanness or aggression from the Mars person, and vice versa. There is a tendency to taking things “the wrong way” in this relationship. It is hard to discuss feelings without hurting each other.

Mars square Mars, Mars opposite Mars

This is another tough aspect. Mars is the planet of energy and action, so when it is in square aspect to another person’s Mars, frustrations and conflicts may feature strongly in the relationship. This couple is very competitive with each other, but not in a healthy way. These two easily irritate and annoy one another, which can make it hard to stay together in the long run.

This aspect also does not bode very well in the bedroom. It shows different likes and dislikes, and dissimilar rhythms and energies.

Sun square Saturn, Sun opposite Saturn

This aspect can be tough in a relationship. The Sun person feels stifled and restricted by the Saturn person, while the Saturn person may feel the Sun person is immature and impractical.

The Sun person may eventually feel they are treated like a child by the Saturn person. For the Saturn person, it can be hard not to criticize the Sun person, for they see the Sun person as childish and irresponsible. This relationship can have a negative effect on the Sun person’s self-esteem in the long run.

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Moon square Saturn, Moon opposite Saturn

The square between one person’s Moon and another person’s Saturn indicates emotional distancing and censoring. In this relationship, the Moon person does not feel safe and free to express their emotional needs. Instead, they feel afraid to express themselves to the Saturn person, out of fear the Saturn person will reject or disapprove of the Moon’s feelings.

The Saturn person feels the Moon person is overly sensitive and needy, while the Moon person finds the Saturn person cold and impersonal. In this relationship, the Saturn person probably feels awkward about emotional communication, so they discourage the Moon person from expressing themselves.

Venus square Saturn, Venus opposite Saturn

This is a classic indicator of relationship difficulties. In this relationship, the couple feels awkward expressing their love and affection to each other. This is because the Saturn person tends to discourage the Venus person from doing so. It can be very difficult to understand what each person feels in this relationship.

This aspect also indicates there could be barriers standing in the way of this couple formalizing a partnership. Sometimes differences in cultures, religions, social classes are indicated by this aspect.

Mars square Saturn, Mars opposite Saturn

This aspect is a tough one, and indicates much frustration and conflict in the relationship. The Mars person feels stifled and restricted by the Saturn person, and feel that nothing they do is ‘good enough’ for the Saturn person. Saturn wants to repress the Mars person’s energy and drive, for they find the Mars person very childish, impatient and impulsive.

The Saturn person may frequently get annoyed with the Mars person, while the Mars person finds the Saturn person to be a wet blanket. The Mars person feels they cannot express their assertive side without upsetting Saturn. This aspect can be a recipe for disaster, with both partners feeling frustrated with the other.

Sun square Uranus, Sun opposite Uranus 

Uranus is the planet of freedom and liberation, so when it is square another person’s Sun, it can cause relationship issues. This relationship may have begun very suddenly and unexpectedly.

The Uranus person is generally unreliable and unpredictable when it comes to fulfilling their obligations to the Sun person. In turn, the Sun person might not feel they can rely on the Uranus person in times of need. Something always seems to get in the way of their relationship, and the plans they make together often do not pan out. This relationship has a strong on-off quality, and it can be difficult for these two to settle into a committed partnership.

Venus square Neptune, Venus opposite Neptune

If you have this aspect natally, everyone around your age has their Neptune in square aspect to your Venus.

This aspect can be problematic because of the confusion and deception Neptune tends to bring to a relationship. The Venus person feels the Neptune person is their soulmate, and vice-versa, but there can be difficultly when it comes to committing to each other fully.

When issues arise in this relationship, this couple is likely to ignore conflict and sweet their troubles under the rug. Other may think the couple is not in touch with reality because of their refusal to see the relationship for what it is.

The Venus person (or the Neptune person) projects their ideals on their partner. There may be a tendency to overpromise and underdeliver in this relationship. They see their partner as someone other than who they really are, which can cause issues later one when the rose-colored glasses are removed.

Mars square Pluto, Mars opposite Pluto

At first, this relationship can be quite enthralling and exciting.  The sensual connection between you is off the charts! Over time, however, issues related to power, control, and anger may surface in the relationship.

Mars is the planet of energy and assertiveness. Mars shows our drive and ambition, and how we project our energies. Pluto, on the other hand, is the planet of transformation and power. In this relationship, when the Mars person asserts their will in the relationship, the Pluto person pushes back even harder. Pluto may resort to manipulative games in order to keep the Mars person ‘in line’, which angers the Mars person even more.

In this relationship, strong feelings are evoked on both sides. Each partner really knows how to push each other’s buttons and get under each other’s skin. At worst, this aspect can indicate physical conflict and violence.


What are your least favourite synastry aspects, and why? Comment below!


Twin Flame Astrology

We have all heard of Soulmates, but what about Twin Flames?

Can you use Astrology to determine whether someone is your Twin Flame? Yes, you can! Keep readings to find out how.

What is a Twin Flame, anyway?

According to Kyle Thomas Astrology,

“Twin flame connections can sometimes be likened to love at first sight, but on a deep, soul level. These relationships function as a mirror to us and are often a soul that is cut from the same “fabric” as we are. Some spiritual scholars suggest that a twin flame is one soul shared between two bodies.

People who experience a twin flame relationship often share an intense psychic connection and are extremely sensitive to one another’s energies—even if they are not physically present. Twin flames help us to work through profound emotional material by bringing transformative experiences into our lives. These connections are often more intense than those of soulmate relationships—and neither rapport is limited to an explicitly romantic realm.

Twin flame rapports are super charged and often equally uncomfortable. While there are many possibilities for how a twin flame connection will play out, a common story is that one of the pair may run from it, afraid to deal with the intensity of the issues that they are facing between them. This is due to a fear of looking within as much as it is about standing before the other partner.”

Okay, so how can Astrology help us determine if someone is our Twin Flame?

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Twin Flame Indicators

There are a few well-known indications of a Twin Flame relationship in Astrology.

Suns in the same element

Twin flames will usually have their Suns in the same element. For example, Aries and Sagittarius are both fire signs.

  • Fire Element: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
  • Air Element: Aquarius, Gemini, Libra
  • Earth Element: Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo
  • Water Element: Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces
Mirror Aspects 

If you do not have your Suns in the same element, look for aspects and house placements that mirror your partner’s Sun sign.

For example, say you are a Virgo, and your partner is an Aquarius. The two of you have different Sun signs, which is usually a sign that you are not twin flames. However, what if your Virgo Sun is conjunct your natal Uranus?

Uranus is the ruler of Aquarius, so its conjunction to your Sun indicates you have Aquarius-like features and characteristics. Although Virgo and Aquarius are so different, the two of you will share a a love of freedom and independence.

Your Sun’s house placement can also indicate twin flame connections. If my Virgo Sun is in the 11th house, I again share certain traits and characteristics with Aquarius people, particularly in my attitudes towards friendships and technology.  In a way, house placements that mirror each other’s Sun signs act similarly to having your Suns in the same element.

Nodal Connections

Due to the discomfort and eventual growth that come from Twin Flame connections, Nodal connections are very important in these relationships. I tend to give more weight to North Node connections, as they tend to challenge us to grow out of our old habits and leave our comfort zones. The North Node is all about growth and progress, so it makes sense that they would feature in Twin Flame astrology so strongly.

Aspects to look for:

  • Sun conjunct North Node
  • Moon conjunct North Node
  • Mercury conjunct North Node
  • Venus conjunct North Node
  • Mars conjunct North Node
  • Ascendant conjunct North Node
  • Jupiter conjunct North Node
  • Saturn conjunct North Node
  • North Node conjunct South Node
  • North Node conjunct Vertex

North Node connections can be very disorienting and uncomfortable for those who are not ready. Your Twin Flame will force you out of old, outdated patterns in your life and encourages you to live up to your potential.

Close conjunctions

Twin Flames will often have tight conjunctions between planets. These conjunctions can be of the same planet (i.e. Moon conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Venus), or of different planets (i.e. Sun conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Mars).

Conjunctions indicate a similarities between the couple and the way they express their planetary energies. We are generally better able to relate to those who are similar to us.

Having someone so similar to you can also be very uncomfortable, for they are holding up a mirror to our own behaviors. Things that annoy you about your twin flame may be the same thing you hate about yourself, or it may be a quality you did not recognize in yourself until you met your Twin Flame.

Aspects to look for:

  • One person’s planet conjunct the same planet in another person’s chart (i.e. Sun conjunct Sun, Moon conjunct Moon, etc)
  • One person’s planet conjunct another person’s planet (especially inner planets that combine yin/yang energies, like Sun conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Mars)
  • Conjunctions to the angles, especially the Ascendant
Neptune and 12th house connections

Twin flames tend to be spiritually connected in a profound way. These relationships are not necessarily romantic like Soulmate connections, but they bind people together due to the spiritual and emotional progress that results from their relationship.

Neptune and the 12th house naturally rule spirituality, so it is not surprising they factor strongly into a Twin Flame relationship. I would try to avoid hard Neptune aspects like the square, for they can make things way too foggy and confusing.

Strong, positive Neptune connections indicate deep compassion and intuition between the couple. They can ‘feel’ each other on a soul level, and are incredibly sensitive to each other.

Aspects to look for:

  • Inner planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) conjunct/trine/sextile another person’s Neptune
  • Inner planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter) in another person’s 12th house
Psyche Connections

The Asteroid Psyche is another indicator of a strong spiritual and psychic connections. Hopefully, both partners have strong Psyche connections to the other partner’s planets or angles.

In astrology, Psyche represents where our soul feels most comfortable, so when someone touches your Psyche in synastry, you feel intuitively and spiritually connected to them.

Psyche connections are powerful because you feel you know each other on a deep, unspoken level. It is as though you can read each other’s minds, and feel each other’s pain. When considering Psyche aspects, keep the aspects tight (no more than 2 degrees!).

Aspects to look for:

  • Psyche conjunct Sun
  • Psyche conjunct Moon
  • Psyche conjunct Mercury
  • Psyche conjunct Venus
  • Psyche conjunct Mars
  • Psyche conjunct Ascendant
  • Psyche conjunct Jupiter
  • Psyche conjunct Eros


Twin Flame relationships are very eye-opening and provides great insight into each person’s inner world. If you have been lucky enough to meet your twin flame, what aspects do you share with them? Comment below!

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The Astrology of Toxic Relationships

We have all heard the term “toxic relationship”, and you may have experienced one, yourself! I know I have.

What aspects indicate a toxic relationship?

What is a toxic relationship?

According to Very Well Mind, “A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. A relationship is toxic when your well-being is threatened in some way—emotionally, psychologically, and even physically.”

Some indications of being in a toxic relationship are:

  • Feeling undervalued and unappreciated
  • Feeling you need to walk on eggshells around your partner
  • The relationship brings out the worst side of you
Who gets into toxic relationships?

According to Very Well Mind, people who have mental health problems or past traumas may be susceptible to getting caught in a toxic relationship.  Low self-esteem and self-worth can lead people into toxic relationships because they do not feel they can do any better.

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What natal aspects indicate someone might find themselves in a toxic relationship?
Hard Venus-Saturn Aspects

Hard aspects between Venus (or the ruler of the 7th house) and Saturn can indicate someone who may find themselves in toxic relationships. People with harsh Venus-Saturn aspects often have issues regarding low self-worth and self-esteem. There may be a feeling of being unworthy of love, or being unlovable.  There may be a lot of pessimism about love, often due to an early heartbreak they have never gotten over.

Because of their low self-esteem, Venus-Saturn people may feel they are unworthy of true love, and that unconditional love does not exist. As a result, they may marry out of duty or responsibility. They might end up with partners who do not treat them well or value them at all, which is a reflection of how the Venus-Saturn native feels about themselves.

Hard Venus-Neptune Aspects 

Hard aspects between Venus (or the ruler of the 7th house) and Neptune in a natal chart can indicate someone who ends up with toxic partners. Neptune is the planet of delusion and illusions, so it can make it hard for people with this aspect to see their romantic partners for who they really are.

Venus-Neptune people tend to be very forgiving and see their relationships through rose-coloured glasses. They create fantasies or idealizations of their partners in their mind, and may tend to ignore their partners flaws to keep their dreams alive.

If the Venus-Neptune native finds themselves in a toxic relationship, it may be difficult for them to fully let go of their partner, for it would ruin the fantasy they’ve built up in their minds. This is why Venus-Neptune natives tend to stay in bad relationships for a long time.

Hard Venus-Pluto Aspects

People who have hard aspects between Venus and Pluto in their natal charts are no strangers to drama. This aspect indicates their relationships are full of jealousy, obsession, drama, and power struggles. People will this aspect attract intense and consuming relationships which quickly fall into a ‘can’t live with you, can’t live without you’ theme to them.

Synastry of Toxic Relationships
Pluto and Toxic Relationships

The first thing some astrologers think of when they hear “toxic relationship’ is Pluto! Pluto is the lord of the underworld, and rules transformation, intimacy, and power. On the downside, it can also bring jealousy, obsession, and power struggles into a relationship.

Venus-Pluto aspects (and 7th house ruler-Pluto aspects) in Synastry can indicate toxicity. If one person’s Pluto makes hard aspects to another person’s planets, the Pluto person will likely have the upper hand in the relationship.

The planet person, over time, may not appreciate the Pluto person’s constant need to control them and the relationship, and may attempt the get the power back by resorting to game playing. Things could quickly turn ugly between the couple, for each is trying to dominate and control the other.

I find that Pluto also brings a lot of paranoia into a relationship due to a strong fear of losing each other. Accusations of disloyalty (whether true or not) could feature strongly between this couple. At worst, strong Pluto contacts can indicate abuse (mental, physical, and sexual).

In my experience with Venus conjunct Pluto and Venus square Pluto in synastry, these aspects are very toxic. I always felt my partner was trying to control me, and it was incredibly hard for us to break up. Although I was unhappy in the relationship, I was obsessed with him and could not imagine being apart from him. I’m glad I finally came to my senses and broke up with him, but it was probably my hardest breakup to date.

Neptune and Toxic Relationships 

As mentioned before, harsh Neptune aspects are sweet and dreamy, but can also be confusing, deceptive and disorienting.

Hard Neptune in a synastry chart indicates a relationship that is not entirely realistic. This, in itself, does not indicate toxicity, but it can depending on how the couple treats each other.

Unlike Venus-Pluto, Venus-Neptune aspects do not indicate controlling, jealous behaviour between a couple. Instead, it can indicate deception and dishonesty. At least one of the partners does not see (or does not WANT to see) the relationship for what it really is.

In strong Neptune relationships, it is common that the Neptune person continually lies to and deceives the planet person. The planet person sees the relationship through rose-colored glasses and does not want to accept the Neptune person’s flaws, for that would ruin the perfect image in their head of their partner and the relationship. As a result, the Neptune person may choose to forgive the Neptune person.

Relationships like these can become very toxic, mostly due to how much the Neptune person disrespects the planet person, and for how much disrespect the planet person puts up with. For example, Khloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson’s relationship was full of Neptune (Tristan is very Neptunian, by the way). Khloe continually forgave him and gave him too many chances until she could no longer take the disrespect.

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Will my Ex come back?

I am asked this question constantly by my readers and friends. It is not an easy question to answer, but there are some ways to show your ex may come back into your life.

Astrology is all about timing. When a person enters and exits your life is ‘written in the stars’. Plenty of people come back together after time apart, while others stay out of your life for good.

Do retrogrades cause breakups? 

I find that a lot of my readers break up during a retrograde. Retrogrades are a time of reviewing and reassessing, so it makes sense that breakups happen during this time.

I’ve heard from many astrologers that the couple is likely to get back together once the retrograde is over. This can be true, but it really depends.

For example, a friend of mine break up with her boyfriend during Mars retrograde. Mars was retrograde in her 7th house, which is a very good indication that she would experience some relationship difficulties during this time.

She called me in a panic, and said she was scared he would be gone forever. I took a look at her chart and saw the retrograde in her 7th house, but I didn’t notice any major transits or progressions that would point to a huge break up.

After the retrograde was over (literally the day after), they got back together. It seems as though he needed a break from the relationship for a few weeks to reassess and review if this was a relationship he wanted to pursue further.  That is just how retrogrades work.

On the other hand, I had a major breakup during Venus retrograde many years ago. In this case, I was the one to break up with him. In my own chart, transiting retrograde Saturn was in square aspect to my natal Venus, which is a classic indication of a breakup.

All in all, I do not believe retrogrades themselves can bring permanent breakups, but they are likely to trigger a separation if you already have a ‘break up’ transit happening at the same time. If not, there is a good chance you will get back together after the retrograde is over.

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Do retrogrades bring people back from the past?

Yes, they do!

This is especially true if you have a retrograde planet transiting your 7th house or your 7th house ruler.

It can also occur when retrograde in the 1st house, or if the retrograde planet makes a major aspect to the ruler of your 7th house or Venus. This can signal that an old flame will re-enter your life.

But will this person stay permanently? It depends on the connection between the two people.

Synastry connections that indicate breakups and reunions

There are a few synastry connections that point to on-off relationships

Inner planets (especially Venus) in square aspect to Uranus

When you see a connection like this in a synastry chart, it points to an unpredictable and erratic relationship. In this relationship, there may be plenty of breakups and reunions, or hot-cold energy between the couple.

The Uranus person is likely to bring this energy to the relationship. When the Venus person gets too close or dependent on the Uranus person, the Uranus person feels suffocated and restricted and pulls away.  The Uranus person eventually ends up missing the Venus person and reunites with them, only to pull away again for the same reasons as before.

I find that Sun, Moon and Mars in aspect to Uranus indicate an on-off energy as well. Same goes for Uranus in aspect to another person’s 7th house ruler.

Planets conjunct the South Node

When one person’s planets (particularly personal planets like Sun, Moon, Venus, and Mars) is conjunct another person’s South Node, the couple shares a past-life connection. The connection they have is comfortable and familiar, as they have met in previous lives.

This connection tends to keep two people together for a long time. Over time, however, the South Node person, while comfortable, may feel stifled by the relationship. At the same time, the planet person may feel drained by the relationship, for they feel they are constantly ‘giving’ in the relationship.

Despite these issues, the sense of comfort and familiarity may lead these two to reunite over and over. Depending on the rest of the synastry chart (and natal charts), these two may stay together forever, or may eventually break up.

Planets conjunct the North Node 

This aspect indicates these two are meant to learn from and grow with each other. The Node person particularly feels a sense of destiny and fate in this relationship, for the planet person acts like a guide for the Node person to realize their full potential.

This can be quite exhilarating, or frightening, depending on the person’s relationship with their North Node. The planet person brings the North Node person out of their comfort zone and challenges them to learn and grow.

As a result of this, the Node person may pull away from the planet person out of fear of change. They may feel very settled in their South Node qualities and be resistant to any type of transformation.

However, as the planet person matures. the pull of the North Node may be too strong to ignore. The Node person knows the planet person is ‘good’ for them, so they may end up reuniting with the planet person over and over.


In conclusion, we must look at the synastry connections and transits of a couple to determine whether they have the potential to get back together:

  • In synastry, check for harsh Uranus aspects and Nodal connections. These often point to couples who break up and get back together frequently.
  • As for timing, look for retrogrades of Mercury, Venus, Mars in the 7th house or in aspect to the 7th house ruler.


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The Absolute Best Synastry Aspects

The Synastry Chart, in addition to the Composite Chart, provides much insight into overall compatibility of a couple. The Composite Chart represents the relationship itself and what the two of you create when you are together. Synastry, on the other hand, explains how two people affect and influence each other directly. Both are very important to consider in a relationship.

So, what are the absolute best synastry aspects?

Well-Aspected 7th House Rulers 

What is your 7th house ruler?

  • If your 1st house is in Aries, your 7th house ruler is Venus
  • If your 1st house is in Taurus, your 7th house ruler is Pluto
  • If your 1st house is in Gemini, your 7th house ruler is Jupiter
  • If your 1st house is in Cancer, your 7th house ruler is Saturn
  • If your 1st house is in Leo, your house ruler is Uranus
  • If your 1st house is in Virgo, your house ruler is Neptune
  • If your 1st house is in Libra, your house ruler is Mars
  • If your 1st house is in Scorpio, your house ruler is Venus
  • If your 1st house is in Sagittarius, your 7th house ruler is Mercury
  • If your 1st house is in Capricorn, your 7th house ruler is your Moon
  • If your 1st house is in Aquarius, your 7th house ruler is your Sun
  • If your 1st house is in Pisces, your 7th house ruler is Mercury

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: the 7th house ruler for each partner is very important in synastry. The 7th house represents commitment and partnership, so you can tell a lot about a relationship when looking at how each person’s 7th house ruler is aspected.

If your 7th house ruler receives a square from your partner’s Saturn, it may be difficult to get the relationships off the ground. There may be obstacles and barriers to you being together.

If your Uranus is square your partner’s 7th house ruler, you bring an unstable and unpredictable energy to your partner’s area of partnership and commitment. Your partner likely sees you as someone undependable and erratic, and it may be difficult for you to make a full commitment to each other.

Sun conjunct Moon (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)

The Sun represents ones essence and personality, while the Moon represents our emotions and what makes us feel secure. Postiive aspects between the Sun and Moon in synastry indicate a ‘marriage’ between the yin and yang. The Sun person feels supported and cared for by the Moon person, and the Moon person feels safe and loved by the Sun person. Together, they make a great team. The opposition is also potent in synastry because it indicates a lot of fascination and attraction between the couple. As they say, “opposites attract”!

Sun conjunct Venus (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)

Venus represents love and beauty, while the Sun represents one’s essence and true self. Aspects between these two planets indicate love, pure and simple. This is not a wildly obsessive, romantic type of love, as it is commonly seen in the charts of good friends and family members. In a romantic relationship, however, this aspect is wonderful, for it increases the compatibility between you, and signifies that you really ‘like’ each other!

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Moon conjunct Venus (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)

I may be biased because I have had this aspect so many times (particularly the conjunction), but it is truly a magical connection to share with someone. This is such a sweet, caring and loving aspect. The two people feel very ‘at home’ with each other. Expressing your love and emotions to one another feels easier than usual. You bring out each other’s sweetness and vulnerability. This is such a perfect aspect to find in a synastry chart.

Venus conjunct Mars (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)

Interaspects between Venus and Mars are so spicy hot and deserve a spot in my list of best synastry aspects! These aspects indicate the blending of love with sex, leading to much passion and desire. I’ve found this aspect keeps the fire burning between a couple for a very long time, which is so important when it comes to keeping a relationship fresh. Sex is satisfying and usually quite frequent. The two of you intuitively know how to turn each other on, and can barely keep your hands off each other.

Moon or Venus in the same sign (i.e. Moon conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Venus)

I’ve seen way too many of these aspects in synastry charts, so I had to mention them! The Moon represents our emotional nature, so when it is in conjunction to another person’s Moon, emotional compatibility is indicated.

The same can be said about Venus – these two express love in the same way, so it makes sense that they would be happy together. There is an intuitive understanding between them, and neither has to explain themselves too much. They just *get* each other.

Personal planets conjunct the North Node (especially Sun, Moon, Venus or ruler of the 7th house)

If your planet makes a conjunction to another person’s North Node, there is a feeling that the two of you are heading somewhere together. Both partners can feel progress taking place when they are with each other. It’s a bizarre feeling to explain: it may feel uncomfortable, but it also feels right.

The planet person is guiding the North Node person towards their potential and encouraging them to come out of their comfort zone. This aspect tends to bind people together for a long time, for the feeling of fate is very strong.

What about the South Node? This CAN bind people together for a very long time, and usually does. However, the South Node is very draining, especially for the planet person, so it might not work out in the long run. Check out my South Node article to find out more.

Conjunction to Vertex (especially inner planets)

So many long term couples have significant Vertex contacts in synastry, especially when they involve inner planets. For example, one person’s Sun conjunct another person’s Vertex.

The Vertex is seen as a point of fate, so someone who has strong Vertex aspects with you impacts you powerfully. It feels like this relationship is meant to be, and you can feel this when you are together.

Venus sextile or trine Pluto

I had to add Venus-Pluto to this list. It is the ultimate ‘Beauty and the Beast’ aspect, as it indicates the blending of love (Venus) and intense passion (Pluto).

Hard aspects can be hard to deal with, depending on your personality. Some people simply need drama and intensity in their relationships, so they can ‘handle’ hard Venus-Pluto aspects.

Softer aspects, however, are much easier to deal with. They inject a good amount of intensity and passion without being overwhelming. There is a deep love and intensity between the couple without the power struggles and intense jealousy that come with the hard aspects.

Mars sextile or trine Pluto

This aspect is another one of my favourites. The sexual connection in this case is off the charts!

Mars represents sex and energy, while Pluto represents intensity and passion. As you can imagine, the blending of these two planets indicates a lasting sexual connection.

In this relationship, sex is fulfilling and satisfying for both parties.

House overlays in “relationship” houses

These houses are: the 1st house, 4th house, 5th house, 7th house and 8th house.

The 1st house represents one’s physical appearance and persona. If someone’s planets fall in this house, there is a good indication of attraction, or at least taking notice of you. Venus and Mars in this house are especially sexy.

The 4th house represents one’s home, family, and past. Someone’s planets in your 4th house indicates they impact you on a deep level. The 4th house is a watery, emotional house, so this person may bring you in touch with deep emotions.

The 5th house represents fun, games, and romance, so planets overlaying in this house indicates a strong bond between the individuals. The house person feels more romantic and flirty around the planet person, and there the two of them feel very good when they are together.

The 7th house represents partnerships and formal commitments, so it is no surprise that this house is important when it comes to relationships. When someone’s planets fall in your 7th house, you cannot help but want to partner with them in some way. You naturally want to build an equal and harmonious bond with them, and want their input in your decisions. They force you to look at the other side of the coin and see a different perspective, almost like they are a mirror to you.

The 8th house represents sex, intimacy, and passion, so this house is an important one to consider in synastry. When someone’s planets fall in your 8th house, they bring up very intense feelings from you. You cannot feel indifferent to them; there is usually a love-hate theme in the relationship. You love them passionately, but despise them equally when you feel upset with them. Sex and intimacy are taken to another level in 8th house relationships; you truly feel you want to merge with each other.

Please note: you should look at the house overlays of both partners. If you find that one person’s planets overlay onto your ‘relationship houses’, while your planets do not overlays onto their ‘relationship houses’, an imbalanced relationship can be indicated.

For example, if my Sun falls in your 8th house, you feel very strongly for me. I bring out very deep and intense feelings out of you, and you feel I have a transformative effect on your life. If your Sun falls in my 11th house, I might not feel the same way. I might see you as more of a friend than a lover, which might be devastating for you.

This list is not exhaustive, and you do not need to have every single aspect in your synastry chart for the relationship to work. As I’ve said before, I think a good Composite Chart is more important than good Synastry (at least in terms of long-term compatibility), so there’s that.


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