When two people come together, they create a relationship with its own identity and purpose. The relationship is represented by a couple’s Composite Chart.
When reading a Composite Chart, it can be confusing when trying to determine who feels what.
For example, the couple might have Neptune square Venus in the Composite chart. This aspect indicates a dreamy, sensitive, and rather idealistic relationship, but it also indicates an element of deception, delusions, or lies. In this case, who is the liar and deceiver? In most cases, both partners will feel the energy, but one may feel more strongly than the other.
So, how can you tell “who is who” or “who feels more” in a Composite chart?
Check your Synastry
The Synastry chart will show you clues on “who is who” in the relationship chart. For example in the example above, the couple has Venus square Neptune in the Composite Chart. Now, check your synastry: do either of your Neptunes make harsh aspects to the other person’s inner planets?
If so, the Neptune person may bring an element of confusion to the relationship. If you both have harsh aspects from your Neptune to the other’s personal planets, confusion and deception may come from both parties.
Check your natal charts
If synastry doesn’t give you enough clues, take a look at each person’s natal chart. Say one of the partners has Neptune square their Ascendant, while the other has no prominent Neptune contacts. The natal Neptune square Ascendant person might bring the Neptunian energy to the relationship.
In addition, look at each person’s natal planet placements to see more. For example, if one of the partners has their Sun in Pisces, this can indicate they are the “Neptune” person.
If you have strong Uranus energy in your chart, check each partner’s chart for any hard natal Uranus aspects or Aquarius placement. For Saturn energy, check for Saturn squares and Capricorn planets. For Pluto, check hard natal Pluto aspects and Scorpio placements.
How do the Composite Chart Planets aspect your Natal Chart planets?
Comparing the natal charts of each person to the Composite Chart is a very effective way of determining who feels what in the relationship. In the example of the Composite Neptune-Venus square, check if either partner has a planet that makes a hard aspect to this square.
For example, your natal Sun might be conjunct the Composite Venus, which means it is square the Composite Neptune. This indicates you might feel the relationship is very loving (your natal Sun conjunct Composite Venus), but you may also feel the relationship is confusing, disorienting and hard-to-define, and may even impact your self-esteem (your natal Sun is square the Composite Neptune).
It is also important to check where the Composite planets fall in your natal houses. The Composite Sun falling in your first house indicates the relationship is good for your self-esteem and confidence, for example.
Here is an example: in my Composite chart with an Ex, we had Neptune square Moon in Aries. In my own chart, my Moon is in Aries, so I identified strongly with the emotional energy of the relationship. The square from Neptune, however, made me very confused about the relationship. My connection with him was very bizarre, and I never felt he was telling me the truth.
In his own chart, he has his Ascendant in Pisces square his natal Neptune, which can point to someone who isn’t completely honest. I think we both brought some Neptune energy into the relationship, but it came from him most strongly. My natal Venus was also square the Composite Saturn, so I felt quite ignored and isolated in the relationship. Overall, it was a bad experience for me, and I was the one who ended things.
He, on the other hand, really liked our relationship. The Composite Venus fell in his first house, so he loved the way we looked together. He enjoyed the attention we got when we were out in public. He had a harder time with the breakup because he seemed to reap more benefits from it than I did.
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