Bad Sex Synastry

The Synastry of Bad Sex


Sure, Astrology can give us indications of great sex in synastry, but can it indicate bad sex, too? Here are some aspects which may indicate sexual incompatibility. Note: These aspects, on their own, do not necessarily indicate “bad sex”. Supportive aspects can negate these influences.


Mars square/opposite Mars:


In astrology, Mars represents our sexual style. When your Mars squares another person’s Mars, it indicates that your sexual styles are at odds. You express your sexuality in different ways, which can indicate sexual incompatibility. Squares cause friction, so it may be difficult to reconcile these sexual differences. Your body rhythms may not match well, which can result in disappointment for both of you. For example, Mars in Taurus natives enjoy natural, physical sexual expressions. They are not fond of spontaneity or variety when it comes to love-making. If a Mars in Taurus person partnered up with a Mars in Aquarius person, this may spell trouble. Mars in Aquarius intellectualizes sex, which may confuse the Mars in Taurus person. Mars in Aquarius seeks plenty of variety in sex, and tends to enjoy the “idea” of sex more than the act itself. This would obviously be a problem for sensual Mars in Taurus, who needs plenty of physical contact to be satisfied.  The opposition is not as problematic as the square, but the sexual differences remain.


Mars square Saturn:


Saturn is the planet of restriction and discipline, while Mars is the planet of sex and aggression. When these two planets collide in synastry, sexual problems may plague the couple. Saturn may block, hamper, or limit Mars’ sexuality. Saturn may feel disappointed with Mars’ performance in bed, generating anger and hostility between the couple. This can result in the decline of Mars’ self-confidence when it comes to sexual matters.


Mars square Uranus:


Hard aspects from Uranus to another person’s planets in synastry often indicate an on-off energy in regards to the planet involved. This aspect doesn’t necessarily indicate “bad” sex, but can indicate sudden shifts in sexual interest on the part of the Uranus person. At first, the sex is likely to be electric and fulfilling, but over time, the Uranus person may tire of the sex and seek excitement somewhere else.


Mars-Uranus Aspects in Synastry


In astrology, Mars is the planet of Sex and Aggression, while Uranus is the planet of unpredictability, originality, and freedom.


When one person’s Mars makes a hard aspect (conjunction, square, or opposition) to another person’s Uranus, an explosive, interesting, exciting relationship is indicated. Sexual attraction, at least at first, is strong. This aspect favors sexual experimentation, as the two of you encourage each other to “push the envelope” and try new things. You may also encourage one another to engage in reckless and impulsive behavior. The Mars person finds the Uranus person exciting and unpredictable, especially in the beginning. The Uranus person is “turned on” by the Mars person, and the sexual possibilities the relationship offers.


On the downside, this aspect also indicates instability and volatility in a relationship. The Uranus person may see the Mars person as a threat to their independence, which can make him distance himself from the Mars person. The Uranus person has a way of stimulating the Mars person’s temper. As a result, explosive, sudden arguments are likely to characterize this association. However, the blow-ups are likely to die down as suddenly as they begin. In addition, there may be an on-off sexual energy that plagues the couple. When the initial, exciting sexual energies die out, the Uranus person may feel bored and feel the need to move on.


My Uranus in Sagittarius squared my ex-boyfriend’s Mars in Virgo. While my sexual attraction to him was very strong at first, it certainly did undergo plenty of changes throughout the relationship. There were plenty of times when the idea of having sex with him simply turned me off, while at other times, I was very turned on by him. We got into explosive arguments all the time, and said plenty of nasty things to each other. I absolutely hated the fact that he had to plan everything out all the time (Mars in Virgo); I felt it stifling and annoying.


The trine and sextile aspects between Mars and Uranus in synastry are much easier to handle. In this case, you encourage each other’s independence. Your relationship is likely stimulating and high-energy. You experiment with each other sexually, and encourage one another to try new things. This is a very adventurous and exciting relationship, so it will be difficult to ever be bored with each other!