“Twin flame connections can sometimes be likened to love at first sight, but on a deep, soul level. These relationships function as a mirror to us and are often a soul that is cut from the same “fabric” as we are. Some spiritual scholars suggest that a twin flame is one soul shared between two bodies.
People who experience a twin flame relationship often share an intense psychic connection and are extremely sensitive to one another’s energies—even if they are not physically present. Twin flames help us to work through profound emotional material by bringing transformative experiences into our lives. These connections are often more intense than those of soulmate relationships—and neither rapport is limited to an explicitly romantic realm.
Twin flame rapports are super charged and often equally uncomfortable. While there are many possibilities for how a twin flame connection will play out, a common story is that one of the pair may run from it, afraid to deal with the intensity of the issues that they are facing between them. This is due to a fear of looking within as much as it is about standing before the other partner.”
Okay, so how can Astrology help us determine if someone is our Twin Flame?
Twin Flame Indicators
There are a few well-known indications of a Twin Flame relationship in Astrology.
Suns in the same element
Twin flames will usually have their Suns in the same element. For example, Aries and Sagittarius are both fire signs.
Fire Element: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
Air Element: Aquarius, Gemini, Libra
Earth Element: Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo
Water Element: Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces
If you do not have your Suns in the same element, look for aspects and house placements that mirror your partner’s Sun sign.
For example, say you are a Virgo, and your partner is an Aquarius. The two of you have different Sun signs, which is usually a sign that you are not twin flames. However, what if your Virgo Sun is conjunct your natal Uranus?
Uranus is the ruler of Aquarius, so its conjunction to your Sun indicates you have Aquarius-like features and characteristics. Although Virgo and Aquarius are so different, the two of you will share a a love of freedom and independence.
Your Sun’s house placement can also indicate twin flame connections. If my Virgo Sun is in the 11th house, I again share certain traits and characteristics with Aquarius people, particularly in my attitudes towards friendships and technology. In a way, house placements that mirror each other’s Sun signs act similarly to having your Suns in the same element.
Due to the discomfort and eventual growth that come from Twin Flame connections, Nodal connections are very important in these relationships. I tend to give more weight to North Node connections, as they tend to challenge us to grow out of our old habits and leave our comfort zones. The North Node is all about growth and progress, so it makes sense that they would feature in Twin Flame astrology so strongly.
Aspects to look for:
Sun conjunct North Node
Moon conjunct North Node
Mercury conjunct North Node
Venus conjunct North Node
Mars conjunct North Node
Ascendant conjunct North Node
Jupiter conjunct North Node
Saturn conjunct North Node
North Node conjunct South Node
North Node conjunct Vertex
North Node connections can be very disorienting and uncomfortable for those who are not ready. Your Twin Flame will force you out of old, outdated patterns in your life and encourages you to live up to your potential.
Twin Flames will often have tight conjunctions between planets. These conjunctions can be of the same planet (i.e. Moon conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Venus), or of different planets (i.e. Sun conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Mars).
Conjunctions indicate a similarities between the couple and the way they express their planetary energies. We are generally better able to relate to those who are similar to us.
Having someone so similar to you can also be very uncomfortable, for they are holding up a mirror to our own behaviors. Things that annoy you about your twin flame may be the same thing you hate about yourself, or it may be a quality you did not recognize in yourself until you met your Twin Flame.
Aspects to look for:
One person’s planet conjunct the same planet in another person’s chart (i.e. Sun conjunct Sun, Moon conjunct Moon, etc)
One person’s planet conjunct another person’s planet (especially inner planets that combine yin/yang energies, like Sun conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Mars)
Conjunctions to the angles, especially the Ascendant
Neptune and 12th house connections
Twin flames tend to be spiritually connected in a profound way. These relationships are not necessarily romantic like Soulmate connections, but they bind people together due to the spiritual and emotional progress that results from their relationship.
Neptune and the 12th house naturally rule spirituality, so it is not surprising they factor strongly into a Twin Flame relationship. I would try to avoid hard Neptune aspects like the square, for they can make things way too foggy and confusing.
Strong, positive Neptune connections indicate deep compassion and intuition between the couple. They can ‘feel’ each other on a soul level, and are incredibly sensitive to each other.
Inner planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter) in another person’s 12th house
The Asteroid Psyche is another indicator of a strong spiritual and psychic connections. Hopefully, both partners have strong Psyche connections to the other partner’s planets or angles.
In astrology, Psyche represents where our soul feels most comfortable, so when someone touches your Psyche in synastry, you feel intuitively and spiritually connected to them.
Psyche connections are powerful because you feel you know each other on a deep, unspoken level. It is as though you can read each other’s minds, and feel each other’s pain. When considering Psyche aspects, keep the aspects tight (no more than 2 degrees!).
Aspects to look for:
Psyche conjunct Sun
Psyche conjunct Moon
Psyche conjunct Mercury
Psyche conjunct Venus
Psyche conjunct Mars
Psyche conjunct Ascendant
Psyche conjunct Jupiter
Psyche conjunct Eros
Twin Flame relationships are very eye-opening and provides great insight into each person’s inner world. If you have been lucky enough to meet your twin flame, what aspects do you share with them? Comment below!
This article goes over the best synastry aspects when it comes to deep love, compatibility and long-term potential.
The Synastry Chart, in addition to the Composite Chart, provides much insight into overall compatibility of a couple. The Composite Chart represents the relationship itself and what the two of you create when you are together. Synastry, on the other hand, explains how two people affect and influence each other directly. Both are very important to consider in a relationship.
What are the absolute best synastry aspects for true partnership and compatibility?
Well-Aspected 7th House Rulers
What is your 7th house ruler?
If your 1st house is in Aries, your 7th house ruler is Venus
If your 1st house is in Taurus, your 7th house ruler is Pluto
If your 1st house is in Gemini, your 7th house ruler is Jupiter
If your 1st house is in Cancer, your 7th house ruler is Saturn
If your 1st house is in Leo, your house ruler is Uranus
If your 1st house is in Virgo, your house ruler is Neptune
If your 1st house is in Libra, your house ruler is Mars
If your 1st house is in Scorpio, your house ruler is Venus
If your 1st house is in Sagittarius, your 7th house ruler is Mercury
If your 1st house is in Capricorn, your 7th house ruler is your Moon
If your 1st house is in Aquarius, your 7th house ruler is your Sun
If your 1st house is in Pisces, your 7th house ruler is Mercury
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: the 7th house ruler for each partner is very important in synastry. The 7th house represents commitment and partnership, so you can tell a lot about a relationship when looking at how each person’s 7th house ruler is aspected.
One person’s 7th house ruler conjunct the other person’s angles
One person’s 7th house ruler conjunct the other person’s Nodes
One person’s 7th house ruler conjunct the other person’s Vertex
One person’s 7th house ruler conjunct the other person’s Juno
One person’s 7th house ruler conjunct the other person’s planets (Sun, Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Saturn, 1st house ruler, and/or 7th house)
One person’s 7th house ruler in the other person’s 1st or 7th house
Challenging aspects to the 7th house ruler can indicate barriers and difficulties in forming a partnership.
If your 7th house ruler receives a square from your partner’s Saturn, for example, it may be difficult to get the relationships off the ground. There may be obstacles and barriers to you being together.
If your Uranus is square your partner’s 7th house ruler, you bring an unstable and unpredictable energy to your partner’s area of partnership and commitment. Your partner likely sees you as someone undependable and erratic, and it may be difficult for you to make a full commitment to each other.
Personal planets conjunct the North Node (especially Sun, Moon, Venus or ruler of the 7th house)
If your planet makes a conjunction to another person’s North Node, there is a feeling that the two of you are heading somewhere together. Both partners can feel progress taking place when they are with each other. It’s a bizarre feeling to explain: it may feel uncomfortable, but it also feels right.
The planet person is guiding the North Node person towards their potential and encouraging them to come out of their comfort zone. This aspect tends to bind people together for a long time, for the feeling of fate is very strong.
What about the South Node? This CAN bind people together for a very long time, and usually does. However, the South Node is very draining, especially for the planet person, so it might not work out in the long run. Much depends on how comfortable each partner is with their South Node energies. Check out my South Node article to find out more.
Conjunction to Vertex (especially inner planets and angles)
So many long term couples have significant Vertex contacts in synastry, especially when they involve inner planets and angles. For example, one person’s Sun conjunct another person’s Vertex.
The Vertex is seen as a point of fate, so someone who has strong Vertex aspects with you impacts you powerfully. It feels like this relationship is meant to be, and you can feel this when you are together.
The Sun/Moon Midpoint
I’ve covered the significance of the Sun/Moon Midpoint in this article, however, it is worth repeating how important this point is when it comes to synastry analysis.
Aspects to look out for include:
One person’s angles in hard aspect to the other person’s Sun/Moon Midpoint
One person’s planets (especially Sun, Moon, Venus) in hard aspect to the other person’s Sun/Moon Midpoint
One person’s Vertex or Nodes conjunct or opposite the other person’s Sun/Moon Midpoint
Saturn is the glue that holds a relationship together, so it is important to have some Saturn aspects in your synastry (and Composite chart) to keep things stable and long-lasting.
Saturn can feel both limiting and rewarding, and this depends on how Saturn is handled by each partner in their own natal charts, as well as how their Saturns aspect each other’s planets and angles. People with heavy Capricorn or Saturnian charts may have an easier time with hard Saturn synastry, as they ‘expect’ and are used to things being difficult!
Sextiles, trines, and even conjunctions of one person’s Saturn to another person’s inner planets and angles promote longevity and responsibility in the relationship.
At the same time, I often see hard Saturn aspects in the synastry of successful couples, which can be surprising, given the harsh nature of the planet. In these charts, there are many other aspects which ‘soften out’ Saturn’s harsh edge (Jupiter and Neptune aspects especially).
Aspects to look for:
Saturn conjunct Sun, Moon, Venus, 7th house ruler, 1st house ruler
These houses are: the 1st house, 4th house, 5th house, 7th house and 8th house.
The 1st house represents one’s physical appearance and persona. If someone’s planets fall in this house, there is a good indication of attraction, or at least taking notice of you. Venus and Mars in this house are especially sexy.
The 4th house represents one’s home, family, and past. Someone’s planets in your 4th house indicates they impact you on a deep level. The 4th house is a watery, emotional house, so this person may bring you in touch with deep emotions.
The 5th house represents fun, games, and romance, so planets overlaying in this house indicates a strong bond between the individuals. The house person feels more romantic and flirty around the planet person, and there the two of them feel very good when they are together.
The 7th house represents partnerships and formal commitments, so it is no surprise that this house is important when it comes to relationships. When someone’s planets fall in your 7th house, you cannot help but want to partner with them in some way. You naturally want to build an equal and harmonious bond with them, and want their input in your decisions. They force you to look at the other side of the coin and see a different perspective, almost like they are a mirror to you.
The 8th house represents sex, intimacy, and passion, so this house is an important one to consider in synastry. When someone’s planets fall in your 8th house, they bring up very intense feelings from you. You cannot feel indifferent to them; there is usually a love-hate theme in the relationship. You love them passionately, but despise them equally when you feel upset with them. Sex and intimacy are taken to another level in 8th house relationships; you truly feel you want to merge with each other.
Please note: you should look at the house overlays of both partners. If you find that one person’s planets overlay onto your ‘relationship houses’, while your planets do not overlays onto their ‘relationship houses’, an imbalanced relationship can be indicated.
For example, if my Sun falls in your 8th house, you feel very strongly for me. I bring out very deep and intense feelings out of you, and you feel I have a transformative effect on your life. If your Sun falls in my 11th house, I might not feel the same way. I might see you as more of a friend than a lover, which might be devastating for you.
Sun conjunct Venus (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)
Venus represents love and beauty, while the Sun represents one’s essence and true self. Aspects between these two planets indicate love, pure and simple. This is not a wildly obsessive, romantic type of love, as it is commonly seen in the charts of good friends and family members. In a romantic relationship, however, this aspect is wonderful, for it increases the compatibility between you, and signifies that you really ‘like’ each other!
Moon or Venus in the same sign (i.e. Moon conjunct Moon, Venus conjunct Venus)
I’ve seen way too many of these aspects in synastry charts, so I had to mention them! The Moon represents our emotional nature, so when it is in conjunction to another person’s Moon, emotional compatibility is indicated.
The same can be said about Venus – these two express love in the same way, so it makes sense that they would be happy together. There is an intuitive understanding between them, and neither has to explain themselves too much. They just *get* each other.
Venus conjunct, sextile, or trine Pluto
I had to add Venus-Pluto to this list. It is the ultimate ‘Beauty and the Beast’ aspect, as it indicates the blending of love (Venus) and intense passion (Pluto).
Hard aspects can be hard to deal with, depending on your personality. Some people simply need drama and intensity in their relationships, so they can ‘handle’ hard Venus-Pluto aspects.
Softer aspects, however, are much easier to deal with. They inject a good amount of intensity and passion without being overwhelming. There is a deep love and intensity between the couple without the power struggles and intense jealousy that come with the hard aspects.
The conjunction is a very powerful aspect. It indicates deep desire, jealousy, obsession and love, and it all-consuming for both parties. This type of love transforms the couple, and they see each other as soulmates.
Mars sextile or trine Pluto
This aspect is another one of my favourites. The sexual connection in this case is off the charts!
Mars represents sex and energy, while Pluto represents intensity and passion. As you can imagine, the blending of these two planets indicates a lasting sexual connection.
In this relationship, sex is fulfilling and satisfying for both parties.
Sun conjunct Moon (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)
The Sun represents ones essence and personality, while the Moon represents our emotions and what makes us feel secure. Positive aspects between the Sun and Moon in synastry indicate a ‘marriage’ between the yin and yang. The Sun person feels supported and cared for by the Moon person, and the Moon person feels safe and loved by the Sun person. Together, they make a great team. The opposition is also potent in synastry because it indicates a lot of fascination and attraction between the couple. As they say, “opposites attract”!
Moon conjunct Venus (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)
I may be biased because I have had this aspect so many times (particularly the conjunction), but it is truly a magical connection to share with someone. This is such a sweet, caring and loving aspect. The two people feel very ‘at home’ with each other. Expressing your love and emotions to one another feels easier than usual. You bring out each other’s sweetness and vulnerability. This is such a perfect aspect to find in a synastry chart.
Venus conjunct Mars (trine, opposition, and sextile also work)
Interaspects between Venus and Mars are so spicy hot and deserve a spot in my list of best synastry aspects! These aspects indicate the blending of love with sex, leading to much passion and desire. I’ve found this aspect keeps the fire burning between a couple for a very long time, which is so important when it comes to keeping a relationship fresh. Sex is satisfying and usually quite frequent. The two of you intuitively know how to turn each other on, and can barely keep your hands off each other.
When your Sun is conjunct your partner’s North Node, a strong bond exists between the two of you. This aspect indicates a relationship that is constantly moving forward. This aspect indicates the two of you are “new” to each other in this lifetime.
If there are no South Node Aspects between the two of you and only North Node connection, it implies that the two of you have no past karma to work out. Indeed, the two of you have a “clean slate” upon which to build your relationship.
The Sun person encapsulates the qualities the North Node person requires in order to fulfill their life’s purpose. Thus, developing each other’s strengths and talents is the hallmark of this relationship.
The couple can help one another in furthering their career and social ambitions. The willingness to invest in the relationship is present, due to the fact that they feel they are “going somewhere” with each other.
Depending on where the North Node person “is” in his or her life will dictate how this relationship will unfold. The relationship also strongly depends on whether the Nodal person relates well to their North Node. Regardless, the Nodal person is likely to feel somewhat uneasy in the presence of the Sun person, mostly because the Sun person brings the Node person out of their comfort zone. Is the Nodal person ready to grow, or is he not?
Nevertheless, the North Node is undoubtedly strongly drawn towards the Sun person, and vice-versa. Indeed, the North Node person feels a fated “pull” towards the Sun person.
The North Node certainly feels there is a future with the Sun person and is attracted to the growth the relationship represents.
Moon conjunct North Node
When your Moon is conjunct your partner’s North Node, or vice-versa, an intense emotional attraction is indicated. This connection is distinctly emotional and penetrating.
It creates a strong emotional attachment which makes it possible to overcome the things that ruin other relationships.
The two of you may feel as though the relationship was “meant to be.” The Moon person offers support, care, and nurturing to the North Node person.
The Moon person strives to provide safety and security to the North Node person, as well. The North Node person is glad to receive the Moon person’s support and love.
The cycle of giving and receiving support and love will be a main theme in your relationship. However, the Moon person is likely to give a disproportionate amount of support to the North Node person, in comparison to how much the Moon person receives in return.
This is because the North Node person is learning how to express these qualities, and may feel they are exploring new ground in doing so.
Mercury conjunct North Node
When your Mercury conjunct your partner’s North Node, or vice-versa, a strong intellectual connection is indicated. Communication between the two of you is likely to be excellent (notwithstanding hard aspects to either person’s Mercury).
The two of you enjoy communicating and exchanging ideas. The North Node person is highly receptive to the Mercury person’s ideas, and admires their intellect.
The Mercury person opens up the North Node person’s mind to different ways of thinking. Indeed, it is the Mercury person’s role in this relationship to guide the Node person to their future, in regards to ideas and communication.
On the downside, the Mercury person communicates in a way that may make the North Node person feel slightly uneasy or uncomfortable. As such, the North Node person may feel exhausted at the amount of mental activity that goes on between the couple, as the North Node person has to put in a considerable amount of effort in order to keep up with the Mercury person.
Venus conjunct North Node
When your Venus is conjunct your partner’s North Node, or vice-versa, an instant attraction is indicated. The desire to impress or inspire one another is strong, due to the fact that the couple feels they are “going somewhere” together.
Many astrologers, like Celeste Teal, insist that when this aspect is present in synastry, the individuals are setting the stage for a future meeting, and that the likelihood of a real relationship forming in this lifetime is unlikely.
In my personal experience, I’ve found this to be true. Perhaps barriers to love exist between the two of them, which deny the formation of a love relationship. Perhaps the Node person doesn’t feel “ready” to embrace the qualities the Venus person represents because it makes them feel out of their comfort zone.
However, if there are other strong aspects (especially to either person’s Nodes), the likelihood of forming a lasting relationship in this lifetime is increased.
Regardless, the couple enjoys spending time with one another. The North Node person is strongly attracted to the Venus person’s beauty, grace, and charm. The two of you easily cooperate with one another, and a feeling of comfort and ease was probably instant.
I have had this connection in Synastry, wherein my North Node was conjunct his Venus. The attraction certainly was immediate, but very short-lived, at least on my part!
We had a 2-month fling, which ended with me cutting him out of my life very abruptly. I suddenly lost all attraction to him, which was followed by a prompt good-bye. He e-mailed me for about 2 months after the sudden separation, expressing his disappointment and sorrow.
At the time, I was still in love with a man with whom I had a Venus-South Node connection, so perhaps I was too comfortable with my South Node guy to even consider jumping out of my comfort zone.
Mars conjunct North Node
When your Mars is conjunct your partner’s North Node, or vice-versa, a stimulating, action-oriented connection is indicated. The Mars person motivates the North Node person and encourages the North Node person to take action.
The North Node person may become frustrated with the Mars person, especially if the North Node person is not ready to follow Mars’ direction. In addition, the Node person may find the Mars person overly pushy or aggressive, which may turn the Node person off.
Regardless, this connection promises a dramatic and fiery union. The Node person is strongly attracted to the Node person’s drive and ambition. If other synastry aspects agree, this aspect also indicates a strong amount of physical desire and passion.
On the downside, conflict, and even violent situations, may plague your relationship due to the combative and aggressive nature of Mars. Though a physical attraction is indicated by this aspect, the sexual style of the Mars person may make the Node person feel uncomfortable.
Indeed, since North Node aspects represent the “future,” perhaps the sexual exchange between the couple is too “new,” and will thus require a lot of work to ensure mutual satisfaction.
Jupiter conjunct North Node
When your Jupiter is conjunct your partners’ North Node, or vice-versa, an relationship based on mutual generosity and good-will is indicated. The couple is likely to share common philosophical and religious beliefs, which can go a long way in maintaining a long-term relationship.
Jupiter may provide the Node person with material wealth, good luck, support, and spiritual guidance. Indeed, this is an ideal aspect in the charts of guru-discliple or teacher-student relationships.
Check the house to see where the conjunction resides. This is the area where the Jupiter person brings the Node Person the most luck. For example, is the conjunction resides in the 2nd house of the North Node person’s chart, the Jupiter person will bring the Node person a lot of luck in regards to money and material wealth.
Saturn conjunct North Node
When your Saturn is conjunct your partner’s North Node, you bring restriction, discipline, and structure into your partner’s life. Indeed, this is a very serious union!
On the good side, the Saturn person can help the North Node person achieve success and teach them how to be responsible. Indeed, Saturn brings out North Node’s mature side.
On the downside, maintaining this relationship can be difficult, due to its heavy and serious nature. The Node person may feel the relationship is burdensome, while the Saturn person may feel the Node person is irresponsible and childish.
In addition, external forces may prevent the two of you from fully forming a romantic bond in this lifetime.
At the same time, if other synastry aspects support the formation of a romantic relationship, the depth of responsibility and commitment to one another can bind you together for a long time. The likelihood of the two of you staying together also depends on how the North Node person responds to Saturnian energy.
If the North Node person’s chart is “Saturn-friendly” (i.e. if there are several aspects to Saturn, or if there are planets in Capricorn), the Node person may find it easier to go the distance with the Saturn person.
Uranus conjunct North Node
Uranus conjunct North Node Synastry This aspect is a very interesting one. The North Node person shares this aspect with most people around the Node person’s age, but it does not mean the aspect is insignificant.
Uranus in conjunction to another person’s North Node shows the Uranus’ person’s individuality, uniqueness, and raw genius help bring the North Node person closer to their true path in life. The North Node shows the qualities we need to develop in this life, as opposed to the South Node which shows the qualities that are already developed and ingrained within us.
The North Node feels uncomfortable; it is outside of our comfort zone, so it can feel quite scary. Uranus has a very abrupt and erratic energy, so the North Node person may feel a lot of progress very suddenly and unexpectedly. The Uranus person is like a guru who brings the Node person closer to their true purpose.
For example, say your North Node is in your 1st house. In this life, the North Node is calling on you to embrace your individuality and focus on yourself, rather than being dependent on partnerships and relationships. If someone’s Uranus is on your North Node, the Uranus person might inspire you to radically change your appearance and embrace what makes you unique.
It may feel weird for you to focus on yourself and your needs so much, but the Uranus person’s energy makes it hard for you to do otherwise.
Neptune conjunct North Node
Neptune conjunct North Node Synastry indicates a relationship full of idealism, compassion, and fantasy. Neptune can bring a sweet, dream-life energy to the relationship, but can also bring deception and disillusionment. The North Node person and Neptune person feel a strong pull to one another, and it feels natural for them to be together.
In this relationship, the Neptune person’s compassionate and spiritual nature brings the North Node person closer to their life’s true path. The North Node person idealizes the Neptune person greatly, and may see them as a spiritual guide or guru of some sort.
On the downside, the Neptune person may be deceiving the Node person in some way, or the Node person may deceive themselves in regards to their relationship with the Node person.
For example, say you have your North Node in the 7th house. Usually, you are very self-focused and think about your own needs. In this life, you are being called on to share your life with someone, to learn how to compromise and cooperate with a partner.
If someone’s Neptune is on your 7th house North Node, you want to be in a relationship with them. This may feel uncomfortable for you, but you feel a pull towards them. Through this relationship, you learn about how to be in a relationship and how to compromise with a partner.
The Neptune person’s sensitivity, compassion, and unconditional love allows you to explore your North Node potential.
Given the nature of Neptune, the relationship may be marred with deception or disillusionment, particularly on the part of the Node person (check the rest of the synastry and the Neptune person’s natal chart to determine this).
On the good side, as long as these two are honest with each other, this relationship could last a lifetime.
Pluto conjunct North Node
Pluto conjunct North Node Synastry indicates a powerful connection between the individuals. If your partner’s Pluto is conjunct your North Node, this means that everyone born within a few years of the Pluto person will have their Pluto conjunct your North Node. However, this does not mean this aspect is insignificant.
The North Node’s sign and house placement represent the areas we are meant to develop in our lifetime. The energy represented by the North Node feels uncomfortable to us, as it represents qualities that are not already developed within us.
When someone’s Pluto is conjunct your North Node, you feel a very strong pull towards them. This connection is primal and raw in nature.
Relationships with this aspect are deep, complicated and transformative for both parties, especially the Node person. The Pluto person touches the Node person deeply, and transforms them from the inside out.
The Pluto person, of course, feels very intensely for the North Node person, and helps them regenerate and evolve into the highest version of themselves.
At the same time, Pluto contacts are not always easy, and usually involve some level of manipulation, power struggles and control issues. Also, the Pluto person may be very pushy or manipulative due to their desire to change and transform the Node person.
In some cases, the North Node person may feel very drained and frustrated by the connection, as they may find the power struggles exhausting or unproductive. The two partners may feel they bring out the worst in each other in some ways.
Despite this, the partners have a strong bond between them, which makes breaking up very difficult. This aspect is powerful and may bond the partners together for a long time, but this depends a lot on other factors in the chart.
It is very important to check the house of the conjunction in each person’s chart. Say my North Node is in the 9th house: in this life, I am meant to develop the areas of my life represented by that house, such as travel, philosophy, and higher learning.
If someone’s Pluto is on my 9th house North Node, this means they have a transformative effect on this area of my life. I might have transformative experiences abroad with the Pluto person, or they influence or convert me to their religion or philosophy.
In the beginning, there is a true feeling of ‘going somewhere’ and developing with the Pluto person. However, over time, I may feel the Pluto person is a bit too controlling over these areas of my life. Perhaps I grow tired of the Pluto person always deciding on where our next vacation will be, or perhaps I’d like to explore other religions or worldviews on my own.
The Pluto person may perceive this as a loss of his power over me, which may lead the Pluto person to begin manipulating me or playing games to get back their upper hand. Over time, this could become quite exhausting for both parties, but a fear of losing each other probably keeps these two together longer than they should.
Overall, this is an incredibly powerful and binding aspect to share with someone. Both partners are transformed deeply by this relationship, and the relationship could last a lifetime if both partners focus on equality and mutual respect.
North Node conjunct Descendant (i.e. South Node conjunct Ascendant)
North Node conjunct North Node (South Node Conjunct South Node)
The conjunction of one person’s Node to another person’s Node indicates an alignment of fate and destiny between the two partners. There is a feeling of ‘growing together’ in this relationship. The two of you likely feel very comfortable with each other, given the conjunction of your South Nodes.
This indicates a past-life connection, so there may be a sense of familiarity between the two of you.
In your past lives, you both developed and perfected the qualities of your South Node. For example, if your South Node is in Pisces, you were strongly spiritual and compassionate in your previous life, but may have had difficulty with productivity and routines.
In this life, you are being called on by your Virgo North Node to develop better routines and a strong work ethic, and to become more proactive and health conscious in your life.
When your Nodes are conjunct, the two of you are heading in the same direction, and you relate to each other quite well. The two of you share the same ingrained behaviours, but also are on the same path to development.
The South Node conjunction can make the two of you feel very comfortable with each other, but you also challenge each other to move past your comfort zones.
Overall, this is a great aspect to share with someone in a chart. Check the North Node houses for each person in order to determine how the two of you will manifest your destiny!