Infidelity in the Natal Chart

Here are some indicators in that natal chart that may indicate infidelity. Taken alone, however, these aspects do not guarantee infidelity.

Moon square Venus:

This is especially true for straight men with this aspect. JFK has this aspect, and he was known for his affairs. The Moon and Venus are feminine planets, and often play a role in the kind of partner we desire.

The Moon represents our emotions and what makes us feel secure, while Venus represents how we give and receive love. When these planets are in square aspect to one another, our emotional needs are at odds with our needs and capacity to love.

This can cause many problems, as it is difficult for the Moon square Venus native to have both needs fulfilled by just one person.

For example, say I have Moon in Aries square Venus in Capricorn: on one hand, I am emotionally fulfilled by aggressive, direct, and passionate people. However, aggression and passion to not “agree” with my Venus in Capricorn nature; it is unattractive to me, as Venus in Capricorn prefers shy, stable, drama-free mates.

Also, we can think of this in terms of synastry: if my partner’s Mars is in Capricorn, and therefore is in conjunct aspect to my Venus, I feel a tremendous sexual attraction to my partner. However, it would also mean that my partner’s Mars squares my Moon, which leads to heated arguments and hurt feelings.

As a result, the native finds it difficult to find a partner who fulfills both their Moon and Venus needs, and might choose to have two partners: one who makes him emotionally secure, and one that makes him feel loved and attracted.

This can also indicate a Madonna-Whore complex; the native may have the inability to see his or her partner as both a nurturing type (moon) and a sexual being (Venus). To solve this dilemma, the native may choose to take on two partners in order to have these needs fulfilled.

Uranus in hard aspect (conjunction, square, opposition) to Venus/Uranus in the 7th house:

Uranus is the planet of freedom, rebellion, unpredictability. When in hard aspect to Venus or in the 7th house, the native craves freedom, variety, and excitement in relationships.

It is difficult for these natives to “settle down” into a “normal” relationship because of many reasons. For instance, relationships might make them feel restricted, bored, or they may constantly crave “newness” in relationships.

Its the initial feeling of getting into a relationship which excites them, so as time goes by, their interest may gradually decrease for their partner and their relationship. Bored of the everyday, “hum-drum” aspects of “regular” relationships, the Venus-Uranus/Uranus in the 7th house native may seek excitement outside the relationship.

Neptune in hard aspect to Venus/Venus in Pisces/Neptune in the 7th:

With this placement, idealization of partners in common. The native has an idealistic view of relationships and love in general, and is on a constant search for their soulmate.

They daydream about their ideal mate, and the kind of relationships they envision are other-worldly. Real relationships, however, are difficult; they require a tremendous amount of work, compromise, and often include conflict.

This is the precise reason why people with these placements have such a hard time with relationships. Real relationships rarely live up to the ideal relationships they often dream about, and when confronted with these realities, the native may choose to quietly exit the relationship, leaving their partner wondering where it all went wrong.

People with these placements are attracted to the unattainable. When someone isn’t yours, it is easy to keep the fantasy of them alive because you’ll never be confronted with the realities of a real relationship with them.

This ties in to the fact that Venus in Pisces often find themselves in the role of the “other woman” or “other man”; they get all the romance and fantasy of a relationship without having to deal with the hard work that comes with it.

Similarly, Venus in Pisces natives are sometimes described as “cheaters” for the same reason; if in a relationships, the “realities” of the relationship may push them away from their mate into the arms of another.

Venus in Pisces will not be forthright about their infidelity, however; they are too concerned about hurting you to ever admit they were unfaithful. If confronted, Venus in Pisces may deny the infidelity with an innocent, “who, me?” approach. It’s rare for a Venus in Pisces to leave their mate; they’d rather you leave them than the other way around.

Venus in Gemini:

Gemini is a sign which craves variety and gets bored at the drop of a hat. In Venus, Gemini craves variety in relationships. This sign needs to move around, experiment, and communicate with others in order to keep itself happy.

The sign Gemini is represented by the twins, which reflects Gemini’s dual nature. Indeed, you will often find Gemini-influenced natives having “two” of everything.

For a Gemini Venus, this would mean having two relationships. Gemini is a mutable sign; they can adapt to different situations seamlessly, so they have the ability to flutter between two relationships with relative ease. 

Venus in Gemini are big flirts; Gemini is ruled by Mercury, so they certainly have the gift of the gab and are talented at winning people over with their words.

Moon in Aries:

This placement is often regarded as a “cheater aspect” because of Aries’ passionate, impulsive, “act before you think” nature. Indeed, Moon in Aries natives often disregard potential consequences for their actions in favor of instant gratification.

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Astrology of the “Other Woman”

A friend of mine recently inquired about how and why some people often get entangled in love triangles.

I’ll give you a few examples of “other woman” (or the other Person) scenarios to help you understand why this happens..

1) Hard Pisces and Neptunian influences in the love sector make you very self-sacrificial, compassionate, impressionable, and delusional when it comes to relationships. This includes Neptune in hard aspect to natal Venus or the ruler of the 7th house, or Venus in Pisces, or the ruler of the 7th house in Pisces.

A woman I recently did a reading for had a chart full of Neptune, most notably: Venus in Pisces.  She was involved with a man who claimed to love her, but was living with his long-term girlfriend, with whom he had a couple of children.

This man would complain to my client constantly about how his girlfriend beat him up, treated him badly, etc.. He told my client he couldn’t leave girlfriend because he relied on his girlfriend financially. My client, being a Neptunian, bought into this and began a sexual/emotional relationship with him.

She said she wanted to “help” him, and did so by staying with him and offering him unconditional love and support while he was “suffering” at the hands of his abusive girlfriend. In doing so, she sacrificed her own needs in order to make him happy.

She said, “I know he truly loves ME, but he’s just with her for financial reasons, and since I love him so much, I’m going to stay with him.”

Piscean/Neptunian people like to “save” people, and this is often done through self-sacrifice. When you’re completely blinded by love for someone, it’s difficult to let go, especially when that Neptunian cloud is blurring your vision.

You make excuses for the person, doing anything to keep the “dream” alive in order to avoid facing the truth.  You can’t reason with a Venus-Neptune/Piscean person when it comes to this stuff because they’re so convinced everything is okay.

Rielle Hunter (mistress of John Edwards) has Venus opposite Neptune. Katharine Hepburn (mistress of Spencer Tracy) has Venus square Neptune. I think this is the most common aspect among mistresses.

2) I’ve noticed Venus square Pluto people often get entangled in love triangles. I find that this is common among people who have affairs on their partners, as well as people who end up being the “other woman/man”.

This aspect is known for fatalistic tendencies in love. Venus-Pluto people are known for getting into addictive relationships, even if they’re toxic, because unavailable people are so attractive to them. Even in a painful situation, it’s still hard for Venus-Pluto people to let go because the feelings are so intense.

Also, women with this aspect are irresistible to men, complicating matters even further. Natives with this aspect must be careful to not fall into sexually/financially exploitative relationships.

3) Heavy 12th house Especially with Venus in there. This is similar to the Neptune/Piscean influence I mentioned before. The 12th house is all about secrets, and having Venus in here would point to a fondness for secret affairs. It turns them on.

It’s the kind of relationship which makes them feel most comfortable. Like Neptune/Pisces people, they love the unattainable and tend to fantasize about/idealize their lovers, and might not see their relationships clearly.

4) Heavily Saturnian people. Especially with hard aspects, the person might feel unworthy of love, and has a general distrust for the opposite sex. He/she expects people to cheat, lie, deceive, so these relationships become “normal” to them. If you think every person is a cheater, it’s easy to end up being with a cheater!

5) Heavily Uranian people. Too independent, commitment-phobic, and restless to have a “regular” relationship. The people who offer them “real” relationships scare them off.

What turns a Uranian person on is often someone they cannot have, hence the attraction to an unavailable person. Also, the attraction stems from the fact that they, themselves, are incapable of having a committed relationship, so they pick people who have no time for them (i.e. people who are already in relationships).

Synastry aspects and transits can bring these types of relationships into your life, too (i.e. Pluto or Neptune squaring your Venus, or someone’s Neptune/Pluto squaring your Venus).

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