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How to know if they are “the One”

Out of all the questions I get from my clients, the most popular is “Is my partner or crush The One?”

There are so many factors that go into whether your partner is your soulmate. I will outline a few below:

Good composite is more important than good synastry

This may not be a popular opinion, but throughout my consultations with clients, I notice over and over that good synastry cannot outweigh a bad composite chart. Why is this?

A good synastry chart shows the chemistry between two people. It shows if they are attracted to one another and why. It shows basic compatibility between a couple. This is very important when first bringing two people together.

The composite chart, on the other hand, relates to the destiny of the couple. It shows what the two of you create when you come together.

You could have the most incompatible synastry connection with someone, but if you have a great composite chart, somehow things seem to keep you together.

From my personal experience, I’ve had some pretty significant synastric connections with my previous exes.

For example, with one man I had Moon conjunct Venus, Mars conjunct Mars, Venus conjunct Ascendant, Venus conjunct Pluto, and a Sun conjunct Saturn double whammy! We were immediately attracted to one another and I was definitely thinking long-term with him.

We went on a few dates and things were going well. Then, as things started to progress and things started getting serious, he started to pull away. This confused me – we felt so good in each other’s presence so why the sudden lack of interest?

I looked at our Composite chart and found the answer: we had a tight Sun conjunct Saturn AND Moon square Saturn connection.

While he felt very responsible and committed towards me, the relationship, for whatever reason, made both of us feel very insecure. First of all, work always got in the way of our relationship. He was a very busy doctor who worked in another city, which made things difficult to begin with.

On the other hand, the Moon in square aspect to the Composite Saturn, which I felt very strongly. I felt ignored, neglected, and cold in this relationship because he always seemed to put work ahead of me. To top things off, I didn’t feel I could express my ‘inner child’ around him; I felt I always needed to be a ‘grown-up’ around him, even though he was 3 years younger than me.

In the end, him and I didn’t work out. Regardless of what happened, I always felt happy around him when we were together (I credit this to Moon conjunct Venus – it’s really one of the best aspects in synastry you could hope for). However, we could not seem to ever get past the Saturn blockages we faced

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Timing is KEY

Through Astrology, I have learned that all things come in good time! You could meet someone amazing and feel that you are completely in love, but I find that the timing of your meeting is very helpful in telling whether this relationship will end up as a marriage. Three things to check:

Transits through the 7th house: major planets (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto) can signal a major relationship change.
  • Obviously, Jupiter, the planet of good fortune and expansion, can bring someone into your life. This will likely be a joyful and expansive relationship for you.
  • Saturn entering the 7th can either end a current relationship or bring a new relationship into your life. Saturn can mean an older person or a relationship that will come with its obstacles/burdens along the way. My best friend got married to a man 20 years older than her when Saturn entered her 7th house, but it ended quite suddenly (she is a very Uranian person so Saturn didn’t suit her)
  • Uranus is the planet of freedom and originality. When this planet is in your 7th house, it can bring a new, exciting relationship that fizzles out just as quickly as it started. I do personally know some marriages that began when Uranus was in the 7th house of at least of the partners, but the two people were very different professionally, culturally, and ethnically.
  • Neptune can bring a dreamy love and a true feeling of finding one’s soulmate, while Pluto can bring a complete overhaul in the love department. You could attract a very intense and transformative love relationship at this time.
Transits to Venus and the ruler of your 7th house

Venus is the planet of love and affection, and has a direct link to relationships and especially soulmates! Because of this, transits to Venus are some of the best indicators of finding the “one”.

You definitely want to look out for harmonious aspects to Venus from the outer planets, such as trines and sextiles, and sometimes even conjunctions.

The ruler of the 7th house represents the type of partner you will end up with. This is very similar to Venus, as it relates to one-on-one partnerships and relationships

The BEST love transits are:

  • Jupiter conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
  • Saturn conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
  • Uranus conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
  • Neptune conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house
  • Pluto conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house

I find that a lot of people fall in love during a strong Neptune transit to natal Venus, but these relationships often do not work out. This is because Neptune is the planet of illusion, and by the end of the transit, you may find that the person you fell in love with isn’t the person you thought they were.

During a harmonious Neptune-Venus transit, you can easily fall in love and the effects of Neptune will be much less taxing

Solar Returns

What does your Solar Return chart look like this year? The Solar return shows potentials for the year, including for marriage

  • Each and every Solar Return chart for the years I entered relationships were very heavy in the 5th and 7th houses
  • Look for a well-placed Venus and ruler of the 7th house for more details and clues
  • Pluto in the Solar Return 7th house shows a major transformation in the relationship sector – if you are single, this placement can mean a marriage year for you.

Progressions/Solar Arc

I don’t think it’s possible to NOT have a special progression or solar arc aspect when meeting the “one”.

Progressions show major trends in our lives, so there needs to be some sort of progression involving the 7th house, Venus, or the ruler of the 7th house when the “one” enters your life.

Some examples of progression or solar arc aspects indicating love:

  • Progressed Sun-Venus aspects or Venus-Sun aspects – sextile, trine, conjunction
  • Progressed Ascendant-Venus aspects or Progressed Venus-Ascendant aspects – this one is the best indication for finding love
  • Progressed Venus-ruler of the 7th house or ruler of the 7th house to Venus aspects – indicates love and union
  • Progressed planets in the 7th house
  • Progressed planets making a harmonious aspect to the 7th house or 7th house ruler

I truly believe that true love comes down to compatibility, which is reflected through the synastry and composite charts, but it really comes down to the timing.




Rely heavily on progressions to see when that may be.

For those of you worried about your romantic future, fear not! You will find the ‘one’ in good time.

Click here to read The Synastry of Physical Attraction



Best Sex of your Life Transits

“Best Sex of your Life” Transits


We can all remember a time when we were having the best sex of our lives. Transits can tell us times when our sex lives are going to get a lot more intense, passionate, and pleasureful. Let’s take a look at some transits which can potentially bring you the best sex of your life.


Short transits: Inner planet transits are short-term and fleeting, but can pack a punch, especially if you are experiencing other sexual transits at the time.


Venus in aspect to your natal Mars: When the planet of love and beauty contact your planet of sex, your powers of attraction are very high! Your raw, aggressive, Martian nature is toned down, and your attractiveness is heightened. Under this transit, you are likely to be dominated. Passion and romance are favored during this transit. This is especially true of the conjunction, trine, and sextile. The square and opposition can be tricky, as the transit can indicate tension and challenges when it comes to satisfying both your romantic and physical needs. Members of the opposite sex might come on too strong at this time. Nevertheless, it’s a sexy transit.


Mars in aspect to your natal Venus: During this transit, the planet of sex aspects your planet of love, increasing your aggressiveness and powers of attraction. You are sexy, confident, and self-assured during this transit. You are less inhibited, which adds a lot of spice to your sex life. You may be more direct and assertive during this transit, and you are likely to be dominating one in bed. Be careful- you might develop sexual feelings for just about everyone you meet during this transit!


Venus in aspect to Pluto: Your sexual desires are stimulated during this period! You feel passionate, sexy, and confident. Through sex, you may experience a deep level of intimacy with your partner. Sex is a lot more intimate, deep, and passionate under this influence. You might enjoy dominating your partner, or being dominated by your partner in bed.


Mars transits your natal Pluto: Pluto is the higher octave of Mars, so when these two planets meet, sexual fireworks are in store for you and your partner. Unlike transits involving Venus, this transit does not involve cuddling and affection. Instead, this transit infuses your sex life with a “I want to rip your clothes off and destroy you” energy. Hot!


Pluto transits your natal Venus: This transit stimulates your desire for both love and physical expressions of love. Sexual activities are definitely favored at this time! You’ll notice the sex you have during this transit is spicy hot, as well as intimate and transformative. You reach new depths of pleasure with your partner. With the hard transits (conjunctions, squares, oppositions), you may explore sexual taboos with your partner. One of you may want to dominate the other, sexually, so teacher-student/master-slave role-playing might be something you explore under this influence.


Pluto transits your natal Mars: This transit intensifies and stimulates your sexual energies. During this time, you may become obsessed with sexual taboos and other “forbidden” sexual acts you were never drawn to before. With you partner, you want to explore the depth of your sexuality. In fact, you may find yourself obsessed with a certain sexual relationship during this time; either you’ll meet someone new, or your existing sexual relationship will deepen. Your passion and sexual energies are strong during this time.


Pluto transits your natal Pluto: When the planet of sexual energy touches your Pluto, a revitalization of your sexual energies is indicated. This transit signified “real sex”; you and your partner experience the “higher meaning” of sexual expression under this transit. Through sex, you and your partner evolve during this transit, and the sex you experience serves to bring you closer to each other. This is one of the most intense sexual periods of your life.

Click here to read Bad Sex Synastry