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Saturn transits your natal Venus

When Saturn conjuncts, sextiles, or trines your natal Venus, you become more serious about settling down and are attracted to stable, mature partners. Indeed, this is a very commitment-friendly transit because you tend to think long-term when it comes to your relationships.

Many people find themselves settling down or reinforcing commitments to their partners during this time. If you begin a relationship at this time, it is likely to be serious and long-lasting. Strong Saturn contacts should show up in composite and synastry charts, and your partner is likely to have strong Saturn/Capricorn aspects in his/her chart.

Saturn conjunct/square/opposite natal Venus: Saturn, the planet of restriction, depression, pessimism, and separation, in contact with Venus, the planet of love, beauty, harmony, and one-on-one relationships often results in separations and break-ups.

I recently had this transit by square aspect, and Saturn “hit” my natal Venus three times (direct, retrograde, direct). As with most transits, I found the retrograde hit the most intense.

Saturn on any planet leads to increased depression and disconnect from what the natal planet represents. With Venus, we feel less attractive and sociable, and feel a disconnect from those closest to us.

Saturn on Venus compels us to take a long, hard look at our relationships and suss out what is working for us, and what is not. Because Saturn represents pessimism, the way we once looked at our lovely relationships changes. The little (or big) things we once ignored or withstood become unbearable, and our only alternative is to withdraw to re-evaluate the direction of the relationship.

Personally, I went through a major break up during my Saturn square Venus transit. After four years of ignoring problems and “letting things slide”, this transit forced me to re-evaluate my feelings towards my mate and, more importantly, myself. It became apparent that the relationship was not serving me well, and I had no choice but to let go.

As much as it hurt, and as much as I knew he did not want to break up, I simply could not continue in a relationship I felt did not reflect who I was as a person. Saturn over my Venus also stomped over my self-esteem, so I spent a lot of time alone during this time. Socially, I felt incredibly disconnected from my closest friends. I felt as though I had “outgrown” them, which added to my feelings of loneliness and isolation.

One thing to remember about Saturn transits (well, ALL transits) is that these feelings are temporary. Once I was out of the transit, I came out of isolation and gradually let people back in to my life. I know now that these people are the ones who mean the most to me. Saturn often causes separations, yes, but true friends and strong relationships will survive, and reintroduced once the transit is over.

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Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis- What happened?

Earlier this year, we found out that Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis were splitsville. The reason? Apparently, Johnny was bored stiff and wanted his freedom. Other sources say he was having an affair. What do the stars say about their split?

 

Johnny and Vanessa had very interesting synastry. He’s a Gemini, and she’s a Capricorn. The fact that he was “bored” does not surprise me right off the bat. Geminis need to move around, communicate, and get bored at the drop of a hat. Geminis aren’t usually fond of long-term commitments for this reason. Capricorns, on the other hand, are very steady, stable people. Repetition and boredom do not bother them as much as other signs. Earth signs seek security in their relationships, while Geminis need intellectual stimulation and freedom.

 

Thankfully, Vanessa has tons of planets in Sagittarius, which would definitely smooth out Capricorn’s hard edges! Geminis and Sagittarians get along famously; their signs are opposite, but complementary.

 

So, how did this Capricorn get a freedom-loving Gemini to commit? Her Saturn is conjunct his Sun. Vanessa stabilized Johnny and stimulated his desire to settle down. She kept him grounded. At the same time, Johnny may have felt restricted by Vanessa. Perhaps he felt that she was overbearing or critical of him, which may have left him feeling discouraged and stifled. This would be especially difficult for a Gemini to handle. Regardless, Sun-Saturn connections in synastry are very common in the synastry charts of marriage partners.

 

Johnny’s Neptune is conjunct Vanessa’s Ascendant. To Johnny, Vanessa is his “dream girl”. He easily trusts and forgives Vanessa, and she does the same. This aspects lends itself to over-idealization of each other and glossing over each other’s faults.

 

Vanessa’s Sun is conjunct Johnny’s Vertex. In addition, her anti-vertex is conjunct his Vertex, and vice-versa! This indicates the union was fated. The Vertex is a calculated point, and is often referred to as the “second Descendant”. When someone’s Vertex is aspected in synastry, it indicates the two people were meant to come together for a purpose. Johnny’s Vertex is in his 5th house, so perhaps the couple was fated to have children together. Vanessa’s Vertex is in the 8th house, so she was meant to explore herself psychologically and sexually through their union.

 

Johnny’s Sun, Mercury and Venus are situated in Vanessa’s 7th house. This is an indicator of a strong mutual attraction between the two. Johnny is Vanessa’s idea of the perfect man, and Johnny finds Vanessa beautiful. Johnny stimulates Vanessa’s desire to settle down.

 

Vanessa’s Mars, Venus, Neptune, and Mercury are situated in Johnny’s 4th house. She stimulated Johnny’s desire to build a home and family together. In fact, this aspect indicates the couple spent a lot of time at home. They moved to a relatively remote area of France together, where they lived for many years. Vanessa’s Moon is located in Johnny’s 12th house, which may have been why they moved so far away to be with one another; perhaps Johnny wanted to keep her and the family “hidden”.

 

Johnny and Vanessa share a mutual Moon conjunct North Node aspect in synastry! Wow! They are naturally protective of one another. They each possess qualities the other needs to develop in order to grow. The bond was instant, and they both felt they were “going somewhere” with one another. North Node aspects can be tricky, though. Over time, the constant nurturing and giving in the relationship can become draining. I’ve read that when a synastry chart features North Node connections, but no South Node connections, the relationship is not meant to last. Instead, the relationship seeds are planted in this life, and the two will reunite in their next life to continue the relationship.

 

One of the most troubling aspects between Johnny and Vanessa involves the Planet Uranus. Johnny’s Uranus is conjunct his Mars in the first, indicating he is freedom-loving and independent, and may be prone to sudden, impulsive behaviors.  This conjunction squares Vanessa’s Venus/Neptune conjunction. Vanessa probably found Johnny very exciting, eccentric, and attractive, but at the same time, unstable, unpredictable, and inconstant. This aspect does not favor stability in a relationship. Johnny may have felt his individuality and independence were stifled by Vanessa, so the relationship may have made him feel trapped. This aspect is a classic divorce indicator in a couple’s synastry chart, and can certainly indicate infidelity.

 

So, there’s their synastry. Very powerful synastry, indeed. But why did Johnny end things this year, after over a decade of marriage?

 

Rumor has it, the couple has been having problems for years. Indeed, transiting Neptune was squaring Johnny’s Venus until last year. This transit often indicates disillusionment when it comes to how one perceives his or her relationship, as well as deceit. Also, Uranus has been opposing Johnny’s progressed Mars, which is a transit that stimulates a person’s desire for freedom, and may manifest through acting out or rebelling.

 

Neptune was transiting Johnny’s 7th house for the majority of the time they were married, which makes sense given the strong Neptunian aspects in their synastry chart. Around the time of the divorce, transiting Neptune was opposite Johnny’s natal Uranus in the first. During this time, the desire to make a change and to do something “out of character” is stimulated. This transit often indicates misunderstandings, feelings of uncertainty, and even deceit. Since this transit affected his 1st/7th house axis, the change came in the form of breaking up his relationship with Vanessa.

 

Around the time of their divorce, transiting Jupiter  in his 10th house was squaring his natal Uranus, which stimulated his desire for freedom even further. Jupiter “expanded” his need for freedom (Uranus), which played out in a very public way (10th house)

 

Moreover, transiting Saturn was squaring Johnny’s Venus all year. This is a classic break-up transit. During this transit, we take a long, hard look at our relationships and decide what’s working for us, and what is not. Johnny and Vanessa’s synastry featured plenty of Neptune, and Johnny has been experiencing Neptune in his love sector for quite some time. When Saturn came along, Johnny was shaken out of any disillusionment he was holding on to, and was forced to re-evaluate his relationship with Vanessa, and he ultimately decided to end things.

 

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The Astrology of Break-Ups

There is no doubt that break-ups are difficult, and happen for a variety of reasons. Through astrology, it is easy to determine when a break-up may occur by observing transits to one’s natal chart.

Here are a few transits which often bring separations/break-ups:

Saturn conjunct/square/opposite natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house:

Saturn, the planet of restriction, depression, pessimism, and separation, in contact with Venus, the planet of love, beauty, harmony, and one-on-one relationships often results in separations and break-ups.

I recently had this transit by square aspect, and Saturn “hit” my natal Venus three times (direct, retrograde, direct). As with most transits, I found the retrograde hit the most intense.

Saturn on any planet leads to increased depression and disconnect from what the natal planet represents. With Venus, we feel less attractive and sociable, and feel a disconnect from those closest to us.

Saturn on Venus compels us to take a long, hard look at our relationships and suss out what is working for us, and what is not. Because Saturn represents pessimism, the way we once looked at our lovely relationships changes. The little (or big) things we once ignored or withstood become unbearable, and our only alternative is to withdraw to re-evaluate the direction of the relationship.

Personally, I went through a major break up during my Saturn square Venus transit. After four years of ignoring problems and “letting things slide”, this transit forced me to re-evaluate my feelings towards my mate and, more importantly, myself.

It became apparent that the relationship was not serving me well, and I had no choice but to let go. As much as it hurt, and as much as I knew he did not want to break up, I simply could not continue in a relationship I felt did not reflect who I was as a person.

Saturn over my Venus also stomped over my self-esteem, so I spent a lot of time alone during this time. Socially, I felt incredibly disconnected from my closest friends. I felt as though I had “outgrown” them, which added to my feelings of loneliness and isolation.

One thing to remember about Saturn transits (well, ALL transits) is that these feelings are temporary. Once I was out of the transit, I came out of isolation and gradually let people back in to my life.

I know now that these people are the ones who mean the most to me. Saturn often causes separations, yes, but true friends and strong relationships will survive, and reintroduced once the transit is over.

Uranus transiting in aspect to Venus/ruler of the 5th or 7th house/Descendant:

Uranus, the planet of rebellion, freedom from restrictions, unpredictability, separation in aspect to Venus can cause separations in relationships. Under this influence, we are no longer satisfied with the everyday, hum-drum aspects of “normal” relationships, and seek new experiences and excitement in love.

Relationships become “boring”, and all we want to do is have fun. Uranus on Venus changes our “tastes”; we often find ourselves attracted to people we never thought we’d be attracted to before the transit began.

Uranus on Venus is why a woman ends a 20-year marriage on a whim, and runs off with a man 15 years younger than her. I’ve found that people often believe that they’ve encountered their soulmate under this influence.

Ever hear of the law of attraction? Uranus *temporarily* changes our attitudes on love and freedom, so we naturally attract like-minded people. Relationships begun at this time generally do not last.

Once the feelings of excitement wear off, we are often no longer interested in that relationship and move on. On the other hand, it might be the other person who leaves us once the relationships becomes “normal” (since the person we attract is usually Uranian).

We also find ourselves with a new group of friends, and make changes to our appearance. We dress differently, change our hairstyle, etc..

The aspect between Uranus and the natal planet describes the nature of the transit. Hard aspects (conjunction, square, oppostion) are the most difficult, and often end in separations and/or infidelity.

The square and opposition, in particular, often bring “what was I thinking?” relationships; the people we partner with under this influence are generally exciting, but the long-term potential is lacking due to the fact that the person really isn’t our “type”, or suitable for a long-term relationship.

I’ve noticed the trine and sextile bring more positive relationships into our lives. I’ve seen infidelity and separations occur under this influence, and the “other person” is generally not as unsuitable as they would be under a hard aspect.

Personal examples: When Uranus was squaring my 7th house ruler, I met an Aquarius male, with whom I had a short, but intense romance. In true Uranian fashion, the relationship was unstable, unpredictable, and exciting.

He was going a Uranus conjunct Venus transit at the time of our meeting. We fell for each other quickly, and he pronounced his “love” for me immediately, as well as the fact that he thought I was his “soulmate”.

While I did not share this sentiment entirely (I am heavily Capricornian, thus very realistic), I was swept away nonetheless. During the time we spent together, there were numerous separations and reunions, and the relationship never quite got off the ground.

In the end, I left him. Looking back on the relationship, I cannot imagine what I was thinking. He was not my type at all, and I even knew this during the transit. I was searching for excitement at the time, and this is what the relationship gave me.

Click here to read When will I find Love? Part 1- Outer Planet Transits