Venus, the planet of love, relationships, beauty, harmony, fairness and justice is exalted in the sign of Pisces.
Pisces, the natural ruler of the 12th house, represents the collective unconscious. Here, the boundaries between “I” and “we” are blurred. Pisces is ruled by the planet Neptune. Pisces represents compassion, self-sacrifice, escapism, drugs, addictions, deception, dreams, and illusions.
Venus in Pisces natives are capable of unconditional love. Venus in Pisces natives don’t care about what you look like, what your job is, who your friends are, or how much money you make. Instead, Venus in Pisces sees the beauty in all people. They can generally find something they like about every person they meet, and tend to see the best in people. This can also mean that they see things in people that aren’t even there. This can lead to choosing partners that are not good for them, who use them and take advantage of their compassionate nature. Instead of acknowledging this, Venus in Pisces makes excuses for their mates’ faults in order to keep the dream alive. It is for this reason that Venus in Pisces natives may find themselves in abusive relationships, love triangles, and the like. Venus in Pisces may even choose partners who have serious problems (i.e. mental health issues, addicts, etc.) with the goal of “saving” that person, as they are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to be of help to others.
With this placement, idealization of partners in common. Venus in Pisces has an idealistic view of relationships and love in general, and is on a constant search for their soulmate. They daydream about their ideal mate, and the kind of relationships they envision are other-worldly. Real relationships, however, are difficult; they require a tremendous amount of work, compromise, and often include conflict. This is the precise reason why Venus Pisces natives have such a hard time with relationships. Real relationships rarely live up to the ideal relationships they often dream about, and when confronted with these realities, Venus in Pisces may choose to quietly exit the relationship, leaving their partner wondering where it all went wrong.
Venus in Pisces natives are attracted to the unattainable. When someone isn’t yours, it is easy to keep the fantasy of them alive because you’ll never be confronted with the realities of a real relationship with them. This ties in to the fact that Venus in Pisces often find themselves in the role of the “other woman” or “other man”; they get all the romance and fantasy of a relationship without having to deal with the hard work that comes with it. Similarly, Venus in Pisces natives are sometimes described as “cheaters” for the same reason; if in a relationships, the “realities” of the relationship may push them away from their mate into the arms of another. Venus in Pisces will not be forthright about their infidelity, however; they are too concerned about hurting you to ever admit they were unfaithful. If confronted, Venus in Pisces may deny the infidelity with an innocent, “who, me?” approach. It’s rare for a Venus in Pisces to leave their mate; they’d rather you leave them than the other way around.
Through my communications with people in relationships with Venus in Pisces individuals, I often hear that natives with this placement are prone to entering and exiting the lives of their mates whenever they wish. Venus in Pisces are incredibly romantic, and certainly have a way with words, which tends to win partners over and compensate for their apparent lack of direction and stability in their relationships.
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