soulmate astrology - Astrology Anonymous

Out of all the questions I get from my clients, the most popular is “Is my partner or crush The One?”

There are so many factors that go into whether your partner is your soulmate. I will outline a few below:

Good composite is more important than good synastry

This may not be a popular opinion, but throughout my consultations with clients, I notice over and over that good synastry cannot outweigh a ‘bad’ composite chart. Why is this?

A good synastry chart shows the chemistry between two people. It shows if they are attracted to one another and why. It shows basic compatibility between a couple. This is very important when first bringing two people together.

The composite chart, on the other hand, relates to the destiny of the couple. It shows what the two of you create when you come together.

You could have the most incompatible synastry connection with someone, but if you have a great composite chart, somehow things seem to keep you together.

From my personal experience, I’ve had some pretty significant synastric connections with my previous exes.

For example, with one man I had Moon conjunct Venus, Mars conjunct Mars, Venus conjunct Ascendant, Venus conjunct Pluto, and a Sun conjunct Saturn double whammy! We were immediately attracted to one another and I was definitely thinking long-term with him.

We went on a few dates and things were going well. Then, as things started to progress and things started getting serious, he started to pull away. This confused me – we felt so good in each other’s presence so why the sudden lack of interest?

couple standing on mountain above clouds — https://unsplash.com/photos/JIdmuiF9luY

I looked at our Composite chart and found the answer: we had a tight Sun conjunct Saturn AND Moon square Saturn connection.

While he felt very responsible and committed towards me, the relationship, for whatever reason, made both of us feel very insecure. First of all, work always got in the way of our relationship. He was a very busy doctor who worked in another city, which made things difficult to begin with.

On the other hand, the Moon in square aspect to the Composite Saturn, which I felt very strongly. I felt ignored, neglected, and cold in this relationship because he always seemed to put work ahead of me. To top things off, I didn’t feel I could express my ‘inner child’ around him; I felt I always needed to be a ‘grown-up’ around him, even though he was 3 years younger than me.

In the end, him and I didn’t work out. Regardless of what happened, I always felt happy around him when we were together (I credit this to Moon conjunct Venus – it’s really one of the best aspects in synastry you could hope for). However, we could not seem to ever get past the Saturn blockages we faced.

What is a “bad” composite chart, though?

When analyzing a Composite Chart, there are a few key things you should look for, which I detail in Marriage Indicators in the Composite Chart article.

I have seen Composite charts full of squares and oppositions, but have key aspects that pull the couple through every obstacle they face. Also, remember that an aspect that would be ‘bad’ for you, might not be ‘bad’ for someone else. For example, I love strong Uranus in my Composite chart because I am heavily Uranian.

Timing is KEY

Through Astrology, I have learned that all things come in good time! You could meet someone amazing and feel that you are completely in love, but I find that the timing of your meeting is very helpful in telling whether this relationship will end up as a marriage. Three things to check:

Transits through the 7^th house: major planets (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto) can signal a major relationship change.

Obviously, Jupiter, the planet of good fortune and expansion, can bring someone into your life. This will likely be a joyful and expansive relationship for you.

Saturn entering the 7^th can either end a current relationship or bring a new relationship into your life. Saturn can mean an older person or a relationship that will come with its obstacles/burdens along the way. My best friend got married to a man 20 years older than her when Saturn entered her 7^th house, but it ended quite suddenly (she is a very Uranian person so Saturn didn’t suit her)

Uranus is the planet of freedom and originality. When this planet is in your 7^th house, it can bring a new, exciting relationship that fizzles out just as quickly as it started. I do personally know some marriages that began when Uranus was in the 7^th house of at least of the partners, but the two people were very different professionally, culturally, and ethnically.

Neptune can bring a dreamy love and a true feeling of finding one’s soulmate, while Pluto can bring a complete overhaul in the love department. You could attract a very intense and transformative love relationship at this time.

Transits to Venus and the ruler of your 7^th house

Venus is the planet of love and affection, and has a direct link to relationships and especially soulmates! Because of this, transits to Venus are some of the best indicators of finding the “one”.

You definitely want to look out for harmonious aspects to Venus from the outer planets, such as trines and sextiles, and sometimes even conjunctions.

The ruler of the 7^th house represents the type of partner you will end up with. This is very similar to Venus, as it relates to one-on-one partnerships and relationships

The BEST love transits are:

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Jupiter conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house

Saturn conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house

Uranus conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house

Neptune conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house

Pluto conjunct/sextile/trine natal Venus or ruler of the 7th house

I find that a lot of people fall in love during a strong Neptune transit to natal Venus, but these relationships often do not work out. This is because Neptune is the planet of illusion, and by the end of the transit, you may find that the person you fell in love with isn’t the person you thought they were.

During a harmonious Neptune-Venus transit, you can easily fall in love and the effects of Neptune will be much less taxing

Solar Returns

What does your Solar Return chart look like this year? The Solar return shows potentials for the year, including for marriage

Each and every Solar Return chart for the years I entered relationships were very heavy in the 5th and 7th houses

Look for a well-placed Venus and ruler of the 7^th house for more details and clues

Pluto in the Solar Return 7th house shows a major transformation in the relationship sector – if you are single, this placement can mean a marriage year for you.

Progressions/Solar Arc

I don’t think it’s possible to NOT have a special progression or solar arc aspect when meeting the “one”.

Progressions show major trends in our lives, so there needs to be some sort of progression involving the 7^th house, Venus, or the ruler of the 7^th house when the “one” enters your life.

Some examples of progression or solar arc aspects indicating love:

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Progressed Sun-Venus aspects or Venus-Sun aspects – sextile, trine, conjunction

Progressed Ascendant-Venus aspects or Progressed Venus-Ascendant aspects – this one is the best indication for finding love

Progressed Venus-ruler of the 7^th house or ruler of the 7^th house to Venus aspects – indicates love and union

Progressed planets in the 7^th house

Progressed planets making a harmonious aspect to the 7^th house or 7^th house ruler

I truly believe that true love comes down to compatibility, which is reflected through the synastry and composite charts, but it really comes down to the timing.

THE UNIVERSE WILL NOT SEND YOU THE ‘ONE’ UNTIL YOU ARE READY.

Rely heavily on progressions to see when that may be.

For those of you worried about your romantic future, fear not! You will find the ‘one’ in good time.

Click here to read The Synastry of Physical Attraction

There are several synastry aspects to look out for if you’re searching for your soul mate. These connections show significant attraction and compatibility between the two people, which can easily last a lifetime.

Sun-Moon contacts:

Soulmates generally have strong Sun-Moon connections in the synastry chart. The conjunction and opposition are the most powerful.

The trine and sextile are also powerful. With this aspect comes a strong feeling of support and understanding. This aspect is particularly potent when it is the woman’s Moon in aspect to the man’s Sun.

This aspect indicates a blending of the Sun person’s personality and ego with the Moon person’s supportive and emotional qualities. Together, the two of them feel like a real team, and feel stronger as a unit than they do individually.

Sun-Venus or Venus-Venus contacts:

Sun-Venus contacts are highly touted by astrologers, and for good reason!

When this aspect appears in synastry, the couple feels affection and love for one another. They love being together, socializing, and showing affection. This aspect is commonly seen in the charts of close friends and family members, as well. It shows true love and compatibility between two people. If these contacts do not show up in synastry, Venus-Venus contacts can be substituted.

When one person’s Venus contacts another person’s Venus, your love styles are similar. You easily get along, and instinctively know how the other person wants to be loved. The conjunction and opposition are most potent, and the trine and sextile are powerful, as well.

Venus-Mars:

This aspect is an indicator of passionate love. There exists a great deal of sexual and physical attraction between you. The Mars person is very attracted to the Venus person’s beauty, charm, and style, while the Venus person is attracted to the Mars person’s sexual energy, charisma, and drive. The sexual passion between you is hard to beat, and is likely to last a lifetime, especially if there are mutual aspects between Venus and Mars.

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Venus-Pluto in synastry:

This is a very potent aspect in synastry. This is an indicator of karmic, transformative, obsessive love. Even if the couple separates, they will remember each other for the rest of their lives, due to the depth of passion they shared. This relationship is very intense and addictive, and, on the downside, brings out feelings of jealousy and obsession.

The conjunction is extremely powerful and transformative for both partners. An incredibly strong physical and sexual attraction exists between them. With the square and opposition, the couple may go through many power struggles and may become quite manipulative and jealous towards each other. The relationship can become quite toxic in these cases, so it is advisable to work through your issues in a clear and mature manner.

The sexile and trine are wonderful additions to a synastry chart, for they increase the intensity and passion between a couple, without all the negativity and toxicity.

This aspect is especially potent if it is mutual (i.e. Person A’s Venus aspects B’s Pluto, and B’s Venus aspects A’s Pluto).

Nodal connections:

When Nodal connections are found in synastry, the connection is powerful. Contacts to the South Node demonstrate a past-life connection that has lasted into this life. The two of you have come together to wrap up unfinished business.

There exists a haunting chemistry between the two of you that can easily last a lifetime. North Node conjunctions are equally intriguing. The planet person possesses the qualities the Nodal person needs to develop in order to grow spiritually.

There is a tremendous attraction between the couple, as well as a feeling of “going somewhere” with each other. Squares to the Nodal axis are very common in synastry, particularly from the Sun or the Moon. In this case, there is a feeling that the couple feels as though they were destined to be together, but the union is a challenging one.

This indicates a karmic relationship in which both of you need to work out past-life issues that is preventing your soul growth.

Vertex contacts:

The Vertex is like a second Descendant. When touched by transit or progressions, fated events are likely to occur. Similarly, when someone’s personal planet, Ascendant/Descendant, IC/MC, or Vertex aspects your Vertex by conjunction or opposition, a fated relationship is indicated. This is the kind of relationship that will change your life.

Saturn contacts:

Saturn in synastry is a binding force, ensuring the longevity of the relationship and a feeling responsibility to one another. Hard aspects between one person’s Saturn and another person’s important planet or point are both challenging as well as binding.

In fact, hard aspects from Saturn to another person’s Sun or Moon are very common in the synastry charts of married couples.

Conjunctions to the angles:

When one person’s inner planets, Nodes, angles, or Vertex conjunct another person’s AC/DC or IC/MC axis, a strong bond is indicated. The AC/DC is a relationship axis, while the IC/MC axis represents your private and public lives.

When another person’s planets or points conjunct any of these angles, the two of you are heading in the same direction in life. There is a feeling of “going somewhere” together. Contacts to the AC shows a strong physical attraction; contacts to the DC indicate the planet person possesses the qualities you look for in a partner.

Conjunctions to the IC indicate a nurturing, protective bond, and the two people desire to have a home and family together; Conjunctions to the MC show mutual admiration and appreciation for each others goals.

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