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Moon square/opposite Venus in the Natal Chart

The Moon and Venus are feminine planets, and often play a role in the kind of partner we desire. The Moon represents our emotions and what makes us feel secure, while Venus represents how we give and receive love.

When these planets are in square/opposite aspect to one another, our emotional needs are at odds with our needs and capacity to love. This can cause many problems, as it is difficult for the Moon square/opposite Venus native to have both needs fulfilled by just one person. For example, say I have Moon in Aries square Venus in Capricorn: on one hand, I am emotionally fulfilled by aggressive, direct, and passionate people. However, aggression and passion to not “agree” with my Venus in Capricorn nature; it is unattractive to me, as Venus in Capricorn prefers shy, stable, drama-free mates.

Also, we can think of this in terms of synastry: if my partner’s Mars is in Capricorn, and therefore is in conjunct aspect to my Venus, I feel a tremendous sexual attraction to my partner. However, it would also mean that my partner’s Mars squares my Moon, which leads to heated arguments and hurt feelings. As a result, the native finds it difficult to find a partner who fulfills both their Moon and Venus needs, and might choose to have two partners: one who makes him emotionally secure, and one that makes him feel loved and attracted.

This can also indicate a Madonna-Whore complex; the native may have the inability to see his or her partner as both a nurturing type (moon) and a sexual being (Venus). To solve this dilemma, the native may choose to take on two partners in order to have these needs fulfilled.

Of course, not all Moon square/opposite Venus natives are infidels! Nevertheless, people with this aspect find themselves “giving up” one planetary need at the expense of another in some way. They will disregard their Venusian needs for their Lunar needs, and vice-versa. For instance, the native will ignore his or her emotional needs in order to feel attractive and valued, or will ignore his or her need for approval to satisfy her needs for security and comfort.

Peace and harmony are very important to these natives. This is why many people with this aspect can be regarded as “too nice”, or as “pushovers”, as they will often find themselves acquiescing to the needs of others at their own expense.

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The Astrology of Break-Ups

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There is no doubt that break-ups are difficult, and happen for a variety of reasons. Through astrology, it is easy to determine when a break-up may occur by observing transits to one’s natal chart.

Here are a few transits which often bring separations/break-ups:

Saturn conjunct/square/opposite natal Venus: Saturn, the planet of restriction, depression, pessimism, and separation, in contact with Venus, the planet of love, beauty, harmony, and one-on-one relationships often results in separations and break-ups. I recently had this transit by square aspect, and Saturn “hit” my natal Venus three times (direct, retrograde, direct). As with most transits, I found the retrograde hit the most intense.

Saturn on any planet leads to increased depression and disconnect from what the natal planet represents. With Venus, we feel less attractive and sociable, and feel a disconnect from those closest to us. Saturn on Venus compels us to take a long, hard look at our relationships and suss out what is working for us, and what is not. Because Saturn represents pessimism, the way we once looked at our lovely relationships changes. The little (or big) things we once ignored or withstood become unbearable, and our only alternative is to withdraw to re-evaluate the direction of the relationship.

Personally, I went through a major break up during my Saturn square Venus transit. After four years of ignoring problems and “letting things slide”, this transit forced me to re-evaluate my feelings towards my mate and, more importantly, myself. It became apparent that the relationship was not serving me well, and I had no choice but to let go. As much as it hurt, and as much as I knew he did not want to break up, I simply could not continue in a relationship I felt did not reflect who I was as a person. Saturn over my Venus also stomped over my self-esteem, so I spent a lot of time alone during this time. Socially, I felt incredibly disconnected from my closest friends. I felt as though I had “outgrown” them, which added to my feelings of loneliness and isolation.

One thing to remember about Saturn transits (well, ALL transits) is that these feelings are temporary. Once I was out of the transit, I came out of isolation and gradually let people back in to my life. I know now that these people are the ones who mean the most to me. Saturn often causes separations, yes, but true friends and strong relationships will survive, and reintroduced once the transit is over.

Uranus transiting in aspect to Venus/ruler of the 5th or 7th house/Descendant: Uranus, the planet of rebellion, freedom from restrictions, unpredictability, separation in aspect to Venus can cause separations in relationships. Under this influence, we are no longer satisfied with the everyday, hum-drum aspects of “normal” relationships, and seek new experiences and excitement in love. Relationships become “boring”, and all we want to do is have fun. Uranus on Venus changes our “tastes”; we often find ourselves attracted to people we never thought we’d be attracted to before the transit began. Uranus on Venus is why a woman ends a 20-year marriage on a whim, and runs off with a man 15 years younger than her. I’ve found that people often believe that they’ve encountered their soulmate under this influence.

Ever hear of the law of attraction? Uranus *temporarily* changes our attitudes on love and freedom, so we naturally attract like-minded people. Relationships begun at this time generally do not last. Once the feelings of excitement wear off, we are often no longer interested in that relationship and move on. On the other hand, it might be the other person who leaves us once the relationships becomes “normal” (since the person we attract is usually Uranian).

We also find ourselves with a new group of friends, and make changes to our appearance. We dress differently, change our hairstyle, etc..

The aspect between Uranus and the natal planet describes the nature of the transit. Hard aspects (conjunction, square, oppostion) are the most difficult, and often end in separations and/or infidelity. The square and opposition, in particular, often bring “what was I thinking?” relationships; the people we partner with under this influence are generally exciting, but the long-term potential is lacking due to the fact that the person really isn’t our “type”, or suitable for a long-term relationship. I’ve noticed the trine and sextile bring more positive relationships into our lives. I’ve seen infidelity and separations occur under this influence, and the “other person” is generally not as unsuitable as they would be under a hard aspect.

Personal examples: When Uranus was squaring my 7th house ruler, I met an Aquarius male, with whom I had a short, but intense romance. In true Uranian fashion, the relationship was unstable, unpredictable, and exciting. He was going a Uranus conjunct Venus transit at the time of our meeting. We fell for each other quickly, and he pronounced his “love” for me immediately, as well as the fact that he thought I was his “soulmate”. While I did not share this sentiment entirely (I am heavily Capricornian, thus very realistic), I was swept away nonetheless. During the time we spent together, there were numerous separations and reunions, and the relationship never quite got off the ground. In the end, I left him. Looking back on the relationship, I cannot imagine what I was thinking. He was not my type at all, and I even knew this during the transit. I was searching for excitement at the time, and this is what the relationship gave me.

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Natal Chiron in the 6th house

In my natal chart, Chiron is situated in my sixth house of health, routines, diet, and work. I’ve been trying to find more information on this placement, but I haven’t been successful. Hopefully my experience with this placement will help other 6th-house Chiron people to understand this placement a bit better. Some celebrities with this placement include Jessica Biel, Ewan McGregor, Jennifer Lopez, and Carol Carpenter.

The house in which Chiron is situated often represents the area in which we have recurring problems, beginning in childhood. It can show what we’re compulsive about. It also shows the area that we’re able to teach other people about, despite having a lack of success in that area, ourselves.

Here are some ways Chiron in the 6th can manifest:

1. Eating Disorders: I’ve found this to be very common among people with Chiron in the 6th. We often have a preoccupation with eating habits with this placement. Personally, my relationship with food has never been “normal”. When I was young, I ate too much and was too overweight. Now, I eat too little and I’m too thin.  Carol Carpenter passed away because of her eating disorder, and Jennifer Aniston has reported having an eating disorder.

2. Childhood illnesses: Many people with Chiron in the 6th were born with illnesses, often hereditary, which will reoccur throughout their lives.  Look for these themes to pop up when Chiron is contacted by transit.

3. Ability to teach others about health: Despite my eating disorders, I know everything about food and nutrition, and I even thought about becoming a nutritionist. It is common for 6th house Chiron natives to have the ability to teach others better eating habits, even though they don’t apply these habits to their own lives.

4. Workaholism: This placement often leads to compulsive work habits.

5. Hypochondria: Again, this ties into a preoccupation with health. People with this placement always feel like there is something “wrong” with them, even if this is not the case. Feeling satisfied with the state of one’s health is difficult with this placement because the native will always find something to worry about when it comes to health.  Personally, I always think the worst, and sometimes even hold off on my doctor appointments out of fear of what they will find.